Sometimes I must be brutally honest
It is not a pleasant thing to do but I could not live with myself if I didn't.
On this and other networks I had several encounters with newbies that were using the chat messenger or a message to ask my advice to earn money quick. Some even used the messenger to say 'Hi" followed by a links and 'please join'.
My response is normally that using the chat to send offers to people you do not know is not professional and that they will accomplish nothing.
If they have not switched me off by than I refer to the importance of branding your self and building connections with others and sometime I refer them to articles that might help them.
I some cases they told me personal things like they needed money desperately and fast for a sick family member, facing the fact they must sell their home, and other sad stories. Many of them said they were posting links all day and did not make any sales.
I really feel sorry for people in such desperate situations.
In those cases I tell them what they probably do not want to hear, that it takes 2-3 years of hard work to build a business for free from scratch and earn decent money from it.
My advice to them is: use your online time to find a regular job. And to use their spare time to start educating themselves in on-line marketing and to start building their network if they are really determent to earn a living on-line.
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Comments (27)
eric charlie bien t....12
internet marketer and service
Struggling to become useful person of my family,street,city,country and the world ,
Tricia (Patricia) Fa...4
Good Advice Paula. I will pay close attention. I just joined a group called "I think" Advertising for Friends. Philippe made a post about it. I am going to look through there. Just a sight seeing tour at first. I still have to go to Empire. I have someone interested in being an affiliate with my company and have been looking into that. I also want to ask you a question but I will PM you in just a few minutes. Great advice as always Paula.
Paula van Dun16
Retired
I am sure you will Patricia. Unfortunately there are members that promote scams on apsense allthough against apsense TOS. Some out of ignorance, some willingly and knowingly. The admins notify members that promote scam to tell that they must remove it. If they don't we must ask Wincer to delete it, we can't. So there are scams on apsense promoted. So always do your own research before joining anything that is promoted on apsense.
Tricia (Patricia) Fa...4
This confuses me. If I feel something is a scam, I avoid it. I have been scammed and it hurt very badly. I am very fond of my APSense family that is growing and will protect it as best I can. That I can promise each of you.
Paula van Dun16
Retired
Another thing I need to be brutally honest about is telling people they are promoting a scam and that they must remove the posting; it is not pleasant but necessary. For their own protection, the protection of APSense and all APSense members.
Tricia (Patricia) Fa...4
May God Bless and Keep you Paula. You are an answer to a drowning woman's prayers. Yes, I had Philippe and Mohann and Sean helping me, but you have an understanding of what I am going through. That makes a big difference to me. I am most grateful to all of my online mentors.
Paula van Dun16
Retired
You're welcome Patricia. As I see you are reading a lot and posting relevant comments. That is a very good start already. You are learning and at the same time branding yourself as a serious marketer. it is the way I started something more than a year ago. I was a nobody and a newby. So all the hurdles I had to take a still pretty fresh in my memory. But you will see the more hurdles you are able the take the more confident you will grow. Carry on as you do know and I am confident you will reach
Tricia (Patricia) Fa...4
Paula, being so new to the online market, and a new business owner period, I can really appreciate this article. I do try very hard to be a good steward and if ever I get ahead of myself please tell me right away. Thank you for a very good article.
Kenny Lee4
Attention electronics
nice article! you are right....
Serban Stanescu5
Writer, webmaster, trainer, ZENLA
Paula, again I am sorry I can top it only once! Still, i must comply to the rules here.
What am I going to do to tewak this "limitation", is tweet it! ;)
I totally agree with that! I know what you mean. I receive lots of mails (around 300 daily), messenger "add me" requests and I have to decline many of those. And the reasons, are exactly the ones pointed here. I am a very open-hearted person, I really suffer if I lack communication, but, on the other hand, I need "soft" touches. I am very sen
Chukwuekwu Okonta12
Forensic accountant
@Paula, thanks for information on numbers of years one could spend before earning well online 2 to 3yrs.
Of a truth, is only in apsense you see 90% of comments on our revpages,articles,bullectins,and group subjects relates to post.
I say this because am in friendline and other social networks, where 90% of comments on subjects don't relate to post/subjects.
What you get there in their comments are advert of ther business.i.e. Unprofessional.
I have to thank people like chery,bj, phi, paula,
Belinha Fernandes5
Plastic artist
Hey, Paula, nevermind the credits.:))
John Ivory3
This is a very simple, concise and to the point and very honest :)
Robert J.15
Marketer, Empowerment Practitioner
Simple and to the point. :-)
Hopefully those who read this and it applies will take heed.
Paula van Dun16
Retired
Great comment Cheryl
Cheryl Baumgartner12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
@Belinha-A big part of the spam issue is that the internet is anonymous. People feel like they can ignore ethics because they are hiding behind a keyboard, that not a luxury offline. If you try it you will have the police or at the very least a process server notifying you of a lawsuit knocking on your door.
What people fail to realize is that sooner or later spam, false advertising and scam etc are going to lead to regulation being placed against our industry. This means red tape, rules a
Paula van Dun16
Retired
I think the caracters are counted. Your first comment is worth triple the credits. I will spend you some credits of my own account. Send me a pm when you want to promote a site or article/revpage on apsense
Belinha Fernandes5
Plastic artist
When I claim credits it says comment is too short?! Well, never mind the credits.
Belinha Fernandes5
Plastic artist
Telling sad stories is a sad way to get one’s attention. It does not work unless you are on the right forum to do it and prove your desperate situation. The result is that no one cares about it anymore even if the person is speaking the truth. Too much fake stories are being told and some pretty elaborated. It’s sad especially for those who are truly desperate and needed. Sometimes I must be brutally honest too.
Once again I don’t know why people don’t behave online as if they were doi
Cheryl Baumgartner12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
@Mohann Send me the link for the celebrities when you see them and we will take care of the photo at least