Save me from the cyber bully
Today I am feeling a little sad and disappointed.
I just got "cyber bullied" for the first time, and it has not been a pleasant experience.
Some of my on-line content was the target of unnecessary comments aimed at me rather than the subject, and I have been contacted by this same person with instructions on what I can or can't write, and what I can or can't do in what is supposed to be a public arena.
All because I innocently posted in a public place, not realising that this bully was using the area as a personal campaign office. I have inadvertently stepped on the wrong toes, and now I am going to have to suffer the consequences.
It is quite amazing how this has recalled memories I had long shut away. I was a shy child, and was victimised at school. However, I was very fortunate to be blessed with a very long fuse leading to a strong temper. The children at school finally pushed me too far, I exploded, and I was not bullied again. Be warned, my cyber bullying acquaintance!
But, all bravado aside, I am really very upset that this has happened. That sensitive child might have toughened over the years, but everyone has weaknesses. I feel like I need to tread carefully, that my on-line relationships and projects might be in jeopardy, that I have to be cautious in what I say for fear of provoking some sort of cyber vendetta against me.
My heart goes out to those people in all walks of life who get bullied on a daily basis. I had forgotten how vulnerable you can feel, how hopeless, how depressed when someone is trying to terrorise you. It is easy for people to tell you to stand up to them, or report them, but it can be dangerous and have long-term, dire consequences to do so.
So realistically, how should a person deal with bullying, not just on-line, but anywhere?
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Comments (15)
Ken Miami-Water.com10
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Shame this type of stuff happens. What is worse with cyber bullying is you don't know who the person is so you can't confront them face to face. In the play yard you can show up the bully and show him that you wont take his BS anymore. Here on the internet they can hide behind there computer half way around the world and hack you. I know what this is like and it is happening to me right now.
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Sidegiggs online6
Online Sidegiggs
on-line is supposed to be a refuge for more introverted people like ourselves. it's a shame that we have to deal with those kinds of people, even on-line. i don't worry about them whether on or off line. some people only use forums like this as a means to be the "big shot" that they can't be in their off line lives. keep your head up, you have people that are in support of you and what you are doing as well. good luck.
Penny Young8
Consultant
How could anyone be worried with a cyber body guard like Jeunelle? ... LOL
Thanks Fishie and Jeunelle for being so supportive.
If anyone is reading this who has the same thing happen, I think it is important to realise that while the internet is a place where bullies can anonymously thrive, it is also a never ending source of support from lovely, friendly, wonderful people who really do care about you.
Once again, thank you everyone!
Theresa6
aww Penny,
I am so sorry to hear that someone has done this to you. You are such a sweet person and have a beautiful way of writing and expressing yourself. I agree with all Jenny and Lisa have said and hope that you can just keep right on smiling. If nothing else, your winning smile will get to that bully even more than Jeunelle's machete (too funny) LOL
Penny Young8
Consultant
It has, thanks to you and my other friends here!
Lisa G.9
Health Wellness & Wealth Consultant
Hi Penny. I think you just solved the bully mystery.
Good job Dear Watson (Penny in this case)! Your analysis is right on.
Guess we all have something that we are opionated about..lol.
See, were already laughing about this.. ha..ha. I sure hope you are feeling much better, and the situation has rolled right off.
Penny Young8
Consultant
Monika and Wayne, thanks for dropping by! I agree with Jenny too.
Ike, thank you for your advice. It is a good way to look at it - as another challenge.
... and Lisa ... thank you for your lovely post. It is nice to know that I'm not the only one who gets emotional about these things. Thank you. Mind you, I can be very opinionated given the right circumstances ... lol. You know how it is when you get passionate about something! I guess most people just know how to express themselves
Lisa G.9
Health Wellness & Wealth Consultant
Hi Penny,
Dear Penny, It could not have happened to a nicer person.
I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you.
Believe you me, my bottom chin still quivers and my eyes fill with water when someone steps on my toes too harshly...lol. Just shows that we are good people, through and through, who really think alot about our own actions, so as not to do the same to someone else.
Kudos for keeping the other persons name private!!! That's always best in the public eye.
I totally agree
Iyke Ozemena5
Attorney, Author
In the public you can hardly escape critical notice. It's part of the challenges of adventure.
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Monika & Wayne T.7
Time Travellers
Hello Penny,
we were going to put our 10 cents worht in but we see you and Jenny have everything under control.
Nothing further needs to be said. Good job!
Penny Young8
Consultant
Thank you so much, Jenny, for your wise and sensible advice. I agree that rising to the bait just encourages bad behaviour.
Jenny Stewart11
Cyber bullying It is, unfortunately, not an uncommon facet of cyber-life. Although it is usually carried out by a minority of people, it's effects are very destructive. And the cyber-vendetta is not usually a figment of your imagination.
My theory is that the people who are involved in this kind of activity are people who hide behind the internet and have hidden agendas of many kinds - often inventing lives for themselves that they do not really have, but would like to have. The internet comm
Penny Young8
Consultant
I should make it clear that this did not occur on Apsense! I would like to believe that our community here is better than that.