Mutual Self-pleasuring: Things to Consider
by John Dugan OwnerJust
about every adult male has had some highly personal experience with
self-pleasuring. Although some men do claim never to have engaged in sensual
self-fondling, they are definitely very much in the minority. Whether a man
engages as part of his male organ care routine or whether he simply enjoys the
sensations associated with the activity, self-pleasuring is a big part of most
men’s lives. Depending on how one defines it, mutual self-pleasuring may not
occupy such a large role in most men’s lives – and so there may be many who
wish to consider it.
What is it?
What exactly is meant by mutual self-pleasuring? There is some
debate on this topic.
To some people, mutual self-pleasuring is defined as two or more
people being in the same space, with each one self-stimulating him- or herself
or self-stimulating each other. (In the internet age, many people would expand
that definition to include people who are not in the same room but who are
connected to each other via computer cameras and/or microphones.) In
these scenarios, it doesn’t matter whether the individuals keep their touching
to themselves or whether they reach out and stroke another individual.
Other people would consider it mutual self-pleasuring only if they
stroked each other at least sometimes. (In this case, refraining from touching
one another would be simultaneous but not mutual self-pleasuring.) Still others
would expand this definition so that it counted as mutual self-pleasuring only
if the activity did not also include oral sensual activity or penetration. The
thinking behind this last definition is that mutual self-pleasuring combined
with oral and penetrative sensual activity falls under the larger umbrella term
of “sensual activity” rather than specific mutual self-pleasuring.
For the purposes of this piece, the term will mean two or more
people who self-gratify together and for at least part of the time touch each
other’s privates. There’s no other form of sensual activity involved in the
activity, but instead two people are exploring each other’s bodies through
self-pleasuring.
Things to consider
Although many people self-gratify each other as part of pre-play
or afterplay, it’s less common for two people to commit to a sensual session
that involves only mutual self-pleasuring. For that reason, here are some
things a person may want to consider:
- Should rings be worn? This may be of more concern to men than women. When a hand
is grasping and stroking rapidly a tumescent member, the presence of a ring can
be a distraction or can even, in some cases, cause some little pain.
- Is the partner shaved? More caution may be required when one’s partner does not
shave “down there.” Fingers (or rings) may get accidentally tangled in hair and
cause unintended pain.
- Calluses? Not every guy has smooth hands. When he’s self-fondling
himself, that may not matter, but when those hands are all over another
person’s privates, it can make a big difference. Using lubricant can make a big
difference in how smooth one’s hands feel on another person’s privates.
- How rough? Just because a guy likes his manhood to be handled roughly
means that a partner feels the same way about their privates – and that may
especially be true of female partners. It’s important to check in and ask if
things are too rough, too tame, etc. And those on the receiving end should be
willing to speak up and offer guidance or feedback without waiting to be
asked.
A guy will enjoy his mutual self-pleasuring experience more if his
member is in prime shape to receive attention from a partner. Daily use of a
first class male organ health crème (health
professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe
for skin) can help and can make the manhood look better too. Use
of a crème with l-arginine, which helps produce nitric oxide, will enable male
organ blood vessels to expand more readily. And a crème with alpha lipoic acid,
a potent antioxidant, helps strengthen member skin by fighting off excess free
radicals.
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Created on Jul 26th 2018 23:05. Viewed 300 times.
Repugnant post. Shame on you!
Jul 26th 2018 23:09