Mutual Self-Pleasuring: Reasons to Try It
by John Dugan OwnerWhile
self-pleasuring is frequently performed in a fairly “private” situation, that
has changed somewhat in recent years. More and more people engage in
self-pleasuring online with another person, and many others also post pictures
or videos of themselves engaging in self-fondling activities. Yet despite this
greater “sharing” of self-pleasuring experiences, many people find it difficult
to engage in a mutual self-gratification session with their partners. Those who
are interested but hesitant may want to reconsider; in addition to basic male organ health benefits to
self-pleasuring in general, many couples find that mutual self-pleasuring
sessions can be of great value.
True,
it can be daunting to bring up the subject of self-stimulating with a partner,
especially for a man. Many men – even those who self-gratify with considerable
frequency – feel that solo play is not “manly” or worry that it may make them
appear weak. But overcoming such worries and broaching the subject with a
partner can often open new doors.
Benefits
So what
are some of the reasons a man should ask his partner to join him in some mutual
self-pleasuring?
1)
A couple can learn a lot. Couples often think they know everything there is to know about each
other – but that’s not always the case. A guy may think he knows exactly how
his partner likes to be handled, but by seeing the way she strokes, fondles and
caresses herself, he may pick up a few pointers that can make their sensual
life even better. And the reverse is true in terms of what the woman can learn
about the man.
2)
Mutual self-pleasuring demonstrates a new level of trust. If it is a challenge to bring up the topic
of mutual self-pleasuring, then actually engaging in the activity means a
couple has moved on to a new level of trust. Doing something that exposes
vulnerability or requires overcoming a roadblock can bring a couple even closer
together than they were before. And that can have positive repercussions
throughout their relationship.
3)
It eases anxiety about self-stimulating. Many men in a relationship feel guilty that they
self-fondle. Performing in a solo manner for each other can help reduce those
feelings.
4)
Communication lines can be opened. Often self-gratifying with another person can open up
new lines of communication – about sensual activity, but also about other
things. A discussion about why they stroked themselves in a particular way, for
example, may lead to a story from their past that they’ve never shared before.
5)
Definitions of sensual activity can expand. Penetrative and oral sensual activity are
tremendously satisfying experiences – but there are times when one or both
partners may not be in the appropriate frame of mind for these activities.
Mutual self-pleasuring can become a way of satisfying desires in a different
way.
Not
every person may want to self-stimulate with their partner, but those who are
interested in this should think about bringing it up. If a guy knows 100% that
his partner would frown on this activity, he should let it go. But if he is
unsure, bringing it up may be worth his while. Both may benefit from this step.
Whether
a man’s self-gratification is mutual or solo-based, he wants to make sure his
manhood is in good shape for the activity. Regular use of a superior male organ
health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is
clinically proven mild and safe for skin) can be a big aid in this
area. Since member skin can be rubbed raw, a man needs to use a crème that can
replenish moisturization. In order to do this, the crème should ideally have
both a natural hydrating agent (such as vitamin E) and a high-end emollient
(such as Shea butter). It also helps if the crème contains L carnitine. This
amino acid helps restore loss of sensitivity in the manhood from
over-aggressive or rough handling of the manhood.
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