Positive schmositive!
A while ago it was discovered that to sell to the average aspirant after wealth and happiness, you first had to make them unhappy with what they already have. A whole industry was created on the basis that buyers were stupid enough to believe that they were doing it all wrong! (Oh - but it wasn't their fault! Ha bloody ha!)
The most successful of these products is the insanely destructive "positive mental attitude". PMA has probably sold more books, videos and training courses and destroyed the self confidence of more people than anything else.
What does a positive mental attitude involve?
First and foremost, it involves - no, DEMANDS - that you lie to yourself. No matter what reality afflicts you with, no matter how many problems you have, PMA requires that you see only a beneficial situation. You have to subvert your rational appreciation of a crappy situation and substitute a totally irrational observation that "all is well with the world". You are required to lie to yourself and promulgate those lies to others who may care for you and see the reality that you are denying.
One of the most purile tests for PMA is to say whether a glass is half full or half empty. It is taught that negative people see the glass as half empty because the word empty has negative connotations.
As a realist in control of your own powers of observation, you would have to say that the glass is neither half full nor half empty - IT IS BRIM FULL!
In the same way, a realist will see that a problem has arisen and solve it while a PMA advocate will be still trying to convince himself that there is no problem.
You can lie to yourself all that you want to, that is your priviledge, but please, please, please do not let the writers of pulp fiction tell you that what you know is not correct.
Sometimes life is not fair but lying to yourself won't make it fair.
My cancer won't go away because I lie and say it does not exist and neither will my blindness BUT my realistic outlook on life allows me to deal with what is, change what I can change (if it needs changing) and prepare for what is to come.
I am not a positive person, nor am I a negative person, I AM COMFORTABLE WITH REALITY. I am contemptuous of anybody who does not know anything about me thinking that I am stupid enough to buy a "one size fits all" book and change my reality for their money making theory.
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Comments (25)
Arthur Webster7
Just plain honesty
Reasonableness, humility and compassion cannot exist in the modern world of politics because there isn't a single politician in the western world who is qualified for the job. Experience over the last few years has shown that politicians no longer get ellected for what they can do but for what they can spend in buying votes. Once they are elected they go into "snout in trough" over-drive and grab every single pecuniary advantage that they can - no matter who suffers. Neither idealist nor pragmat
Arthur Webster7
Just plain honesty
Idealists and pragmatists are not the opposite side of a single coin. A pragmatist accepts what is if he has no power to change it. A prisoner, for example, cannot live in the free society and he will accept it if he is pragmatic. An idealist is a dreamer. He wants everything to fit in with his idea of perfection. Idealists do tremendous damage because they are ignorant of the simple rule of cause and effect. To make a single person the president, for example, denies the effect of concensus. Thi
Roosevelt Evans III10
Home Business Entrepreneur
"This is true but it rather hard to bridge that gap when one party is determined to impose their will on others." Cheryl, both idealism and pragmatism have to be tempored with reasonableness, humility and compassion or both become destructive and dehumanizing. Without Love all belief systems or mindsets are nothing more but "sounding brass and tinkling cymbals".
Cheryl Baumgartner12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
This is true but it rather hard to bridge that gap when one party is determined to impose their will on others. The Native Americans, helped the first settlers to survive on these shores and how did the settlers pay them back? Not by respecting their culture, they paid them back with the theory of 'Manifest Destiny and destroyed civilizations that were way more advanced spiritually and in the conservation of Nature than the European Settlers were. The problem is that idealist in order to trul
Roosevelt Evans III10
Home Business Entrepreneur
Cheryl, my point is there needn't be this animosity between idealists and pragmatists. Had the humans in "Avatar" respected the Navi world and worked around their "Sacred Tree" both Navi's and Humans would have benefited. When idealists and pragmatists work together and learn from one another, great things can be achieved. Idealists need pragmatists to keep thier feet grounded in Reality and pragmatists need idealists for motivation to "reach for the sky".
Cheryl Baumgartner12
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How many species have been driven to the brink of extinction by human greed? We are killing ourselves through idealism. I'm not a tree-hugger, but you don't need to be to see the results of greed destroying our world. We ARE killing our mother because we ignore/do not understand the law of cause and effect.
Cheryl Baumgartner12
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That does paint a ver flattering picture of idealists does it? The Navi; like Native Americans, Pacific Islanders, Africans, Inuit and other societies inveded and destroyed by European Conquest; all had highly evolved societies that had achieved the goal of providing for their needs while respecting and living in harmony with nature. The humans, because of greed had every intention of destroying Pandora as they had already destroyed Earth. Think back to the scene where Sam is talking to Ewah.
Roosevelt Evans III10
Home Business Entrepreneur
Hey, Arthur, I see you finally saw "Avatar"! I love that movie. As I pointed out in Cheryl's more recent article on positive thinking, the core difference between me and you is I am an idealist and you are a pragmatist. The idealist never accepts Reality as the ideal and the pragmatist accepts Reality as the ideal. In the movie "Avatar", Sam was the crippled pragmatist who found his Ideal in the world of the Navi. The ironic thing is the Navi were pragmatists fighting for their world to survive.
Cheryl Baumgartner12
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Avatar simply pointed what has been historically done since the beginning., turn the native population into savages and then take what you want. Look at the image the native American had for years through the reinforcement of 'savage injuns' idea.
Arthur Webster7
Just plain honesty
Found out! The film "Avatar" is a great story and exposes mankind for what it is. A particularly nasty comment on us is made when the troops are being briefed after having destroyed the "Home Tree" village in a massive display of WMDs. A build up of Na'vi is seen as a great threat and the statement "we will fight terror with terror" is not only ironic but a major comment on the state of the world today. Self defence is now terrorism!
Roosevelt Evans III10
Home Business Entrepreneur
Arthur Webster! Got it! Much better than "The Old Coot"! LOL!
Roosevelt Evans III10
Home Business Entrepreneur
W-h-o-a-h! I love that "negative pole of your car battery" analogy, Old Coot! And like you, I concur with your assessment of us humans as "polar beings" full of positive/negative influences, contradictions and paradoxes but that is the awesome beauty and mystery of being human. In the movie "Avatar", the alien Navi had the expression "I See You" to express the true understanding and appreciation of another. With this article I now, "see" you, Old Coot. (What the hell is your real name, anyway
Arthur Webster7
Just plain honesty
Hi, Roosevelt. I am a very comfortable person but like all polar beings, I am aware that to function correctly, I must have both positive and negative influences. Disconnect the negative pole of your car battery and see how far it will travel using the engine.
Roosevelt Evans III10
Home Business Entrepreneur
"I am not a positive person, nor am I a negative person, I AM COMFORTABLE WITH REALITY." Old Coot, Gautama Buddha would be proud of that statement! LOL! However because you are "comforable with Reality", you are indeed a "positive" person underneath the facade of cynicism you perpetrate. William Blake, a great theologian and mystic said, "Imagination is the real and eternal world of which this vegetable universe is but a faint shadow". Hold on to your imagination Old Coot!
Arthur Webster7
Just plain honesty
Hi, Cheryl, I am beginning to wonder if the latest, greatest proceedure at Apsense is the frontal lobotomy! The level of converstaion was quite good, once, but now it seems that unless they are promoting (by copy and paste) their latest rip-off bizz-op, members have nothing to say. What on earth is going on? I would expect some sort of reaction to posts with which members don't agree but it seems that it is all too much trouble or maybe it hurts when they think. To try to pass Apsense off as a s
Paula van Dun16
Retired
Yeah, people tend to shoot the messenger when you tell them things they don't want to hear. But my guess is you are bullet proof Arthur. LOL
Cheryl Baumgartner12
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You won't get any responses other than from a handful, I'm quite sure that their feelings are hurt because you have pointed out that they are living in LaLa Land. In order to discuss reality you have to have a grasp on the concept. However those who refuse to see reality are living on borrowed time because reality will jump up and bite them in the rear end when they least expect it and they will be sitting their with a completely moronic look on their face.
Arthur Webster7
Just plain honesty
Hi, Paula, dealing with hurdles is positive whether you leap over them, find a way round them or simply give up and return whence you came. One of the most important aspects of European languages is that they cannot express a negative. The term "negative statement" is an oxymoron. The way PMA has been used to make people feel guilty about how they view reality is one of the great results of ignorant propaganda. In Spain and in the UK people are said to have their feet on the ground if they deal
Paula van Dun16
Retired
Nice one Arthur. Here in Holland we call such people "goat wool socks wearers". people always walking with their heads in the clouds. I am also in favor of reality although I have a positive approach in dealing with hurdles.
Cheryl Baumgartner12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
I know it is sad.