“Live Love Laugh”

When we promise ourselves to one another it is a vow as strong as the faith the two people have in each other. The bond, the love, is only as strong as the faith between two people is. Doubt is the poison that destroys relationships.

There will always be liars and cheaters and heartbreakers and shatterers and destroyers out there. There is so much evil in the world. And that's the beauty of love. When two people can unite and claim safety, shelter, and protection in each other's arms as the evil of this world corrupts and dismantles everything around them. Their love protects them.

When I give someone everything I have, I am giving them the power to destroy me. I'm perfectly fine with that—with the chance at being hurt beyond all imaginable pains, there is a chance of everlasting happiness. I love unconditionally and I love as much as I expect to receive. I don't give any lesser of me because that wouldn't be love. That would be selfishness or egocentrism. This is who I am by nature and I wish more people were like this.

I understand that for those who have been hurt that we put up walls. Nobody wants to be in pain, but we don't have to lower our walls. Don't change for anyone. When the one that's right for us comes along, our walls will eventually lower on their own. But what happens when our walls are too high? We might miss a chance at a great opportunity, we must at least see who is at the gate. If that boy or girl is willing to try so hard to be our friend then shouldn't we consider them worth it? Love can be the greatest feeling in the world or it can kill you. That's the magic of it.

Any fool can love. But it takes a real person to love unconditionally. Nothing can break unconditionally love—not even an Apache helicopter with missiles—and if your love bond ever breaks and you suffer from the woe of this world, then it wasn't unconditional and the right lover is waiting out there for you. Go get em!

Personally, I find the concept of “true” love very troublesome. It leads people to sometimes focus too much on whether or not the person they are with is “the one” as opposed to putting their energy into enjoying and strengthening the relationship they’re currently in. It makes people worry about whether or not something better is waiting for them if the love they feel for someone now is “good enough” to be “true” because they believe they only have one shot at this and you’d better hope you picked the right one because there are no second chances.

Once, I was deeply in love with someone. We wanted to build a life together. I poured my heart and soul into that bond and I never once doubted that I truly, deeply loved that person and that person loved me too.

But in the end, it didn’t work out. We ended it not because our feelings had changed, but because our lives were taking us in different directions. And I feel pretty comfortable saying that both of us were a mess afterward. I listened to ex-love sob over the phone while I laid there, crying my eyes out. I was heartbroken to the point of physical pain. My ex-wavered, second-guessing, and wanted me back even though nothing else about our circumstances had changed. We knew we couldn’t be happy with the way things were, within circumstances that we couldn’t control, no matter how much we loved each other.

I genuinely feared that I would never find someone who felt that way about me again and that I could never love another person as much as I had loved my ex.

I was wrong.

The Second chapter of my life started and had one more relationship. It was better than the previous one because it’s had time to grow, to build a solid foundation, and because I am older and more mature than I was in that previous relationship. It’s not because the love I feel now is more “true” than what I felt before. It’s different because I am different because my partner is different - but that doesn’t mean that what I felt before somehow wasn’t real enough or that what I feel now is undermined by the fact that I deeply loved someone before I met them.

Love is love. It comes in different shades, different flavors, different intensities. If you love someone deeply and you are loved deeply, then stop worrying whether or not it is “true.” And if you have lost a love like that, then it’s all a matter of meeting the right person, making the right connection, and leaving your heart open to give and receive love like that again.

If you convince yourself that “true love” can only happen once, then you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. I’m again single after two relationships and I don’t have any fear how people judge me for this because we have one life to live, don't engross yourself thinking about future too much. Just try your best to live in the moment and open your arms to welcome new love in your life.

Spread Love.