Assessing Your Ability to be Co-Parent after Divorce

by Melissa Hensonn Lawyer

Will you still function as a primary parent to your children after divorce through the service Cheap Divorce Online?

The answer will determine what your best option (or not!) is in co-parenting. What's the difference between parallel parenting and traditional parenting? Parallel parenting involves shared parenting where the parent is at the same time with the children as in a routine manner.

Traditional parenting (parenting the children in the same home) is about providing the children a home-centered type of parenting where the parent is working towards a shared goal of creating a balanced home and family for their children. What are the benefits of parallel parenting and is it still appropriate for everyone? Is alternate parenting an option for you and your ex?
If a parent is still functioning within the boundaries established with the court, is it appropriate for the parent to have an opportunity to continue parallel parenting? Do you want to continue working to find an agreement on the division of parenting time between your kids? Do you agree or disagree with the court's orders? What if there's no agreement? If there's no agreement, what's the impact on your children? Is it right for you to choose how you will handle a situation like this?
If you are in agreement with the court's orders about the division of parenting time, do you have the financial strength to continue making payments for the services provided by your ex while your kids are with you? Do you want to know that if this happens, the children will be with you the whole time? (This also means you need to know you can financially contribute for the same purpose.)
Can you and your child decide how much to contribute for the same purpose? Do you want to continue sharing parenting time with your ex, or would you rather have your time spent with your child? If so, do you know how and when (in daycare or before/after school) to share parenting time? Is it right for you to share parenting time with your ex?

If so, would you like to continue to co-parent after divorce? If you want your kids to stay in school (or if you can't afford to keep your kids in school after the separation) do you, or does your ex want your kids to stay in school. Do you know how to do this? Are you willing to work to keep your kids in school or is there a conflict? What is your alternative to keep your kids in your ex's school when you are both working? Do you want to continue working on solutions after divorce?

Does your ex agree that this is an issue that must be worked out before you can be together? If so, does he or she have a conflict with you and want to fight about the division of time so you can share time with your children? Is it right for you to continue working on solutions after divorce? If so, how do you want to try and resolve this? Are you willing to compromise about the amount of time you spend on solutions?

Is it right for you to compromise to keep your kids in the same school? When you can't make a compromise what happens? What if there's a conflict about whether your ex should be paying child support for your kids? Do you understand what is supposed to happen when there's a conflict? Do you understand the impact on the kids if both you and your ex are having to co-parent? Do you have a solution? What is your approach for resolving the conflict? Are you willing to compromise to reach an agreement?