5 Ways To Deal With A Difficult Boss!
You have finally
found the job of your dreams, you are doing the work that you love, you like
your co-workers, and everything is going great, until, your boss enters the
scene, who is the ultimate micromanager with a fault-finding attitude, who
despite your best efforts is not letting your works, in peace.
We have heard it
time and again. People don’t leave a company- they leave a boss. According
to a study published in Forbes, “50% of employees left their job just to
get away from their manager to improve their personal as well as professional
growth at some point in their career.
Yep, that`s
right! Fifty percent!
But what if you
are not ready to leave your or job yet? Should you continue to suffer in
silence?
According to Dr.
Vivek Bindra, who is one of the best
motivational speakers in India, if you can connect with your boss on some
level, it will become easier to convey your message and convince them. You can
watch him sharing his insights here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7GB4JQKHPrU
So don`t stress
out! There are plenty of ways to manage a difficult boss and with a little
patience and smartness, you can tread carefully:
1.
Assess the Situation
Is your boss
guilty of bad workplace behavior in general, or does their attitude is negative
only towards you? Be honest with yourself while analyzing the situation. Sometimes
there is a disconnection with the bosses at various levels such as approach
towards jobs at hand, a difference of opinion, ideation, conceptualization, and
execution.
Brooding over a
negative situation will only cause more anxiety and worry. Talk to your boss
and have an open dialogue to address the situation. Ignoring it will only
exacerbate the workplace situation. Sometimes a little motivation might also
help. You can attend sessions by a business motivational coach
as well to gain as new perspective.
2.
Practice Empathy
Sometimes we
have to think from our boss`s perspective to truly understand the situation.
Well, now if you are working in an organization of 500 employees, it becomes a little
difficult to do that. However, contemplate what your manager or boss may be
dealing with- either personally or professionally. The reason behind his
difficult attitude could be the ongoing situation that could be the reason
behind it.
Are they
constantly stressed about tight deadlines? Do they have a difficult boss
themselves? Try to have a friendly conversation with them and put yourself in
their shoes. It will help you to understand their perspective. You will become
more sympathetic about their behavior and circumstances.
3.
Vent out your frustrations
Dealing with a
far-from-perfect boss daily can wear you down. While bottling up all your
emotions can be harmful to your mental health, venting to your colleagues might
backfire on you. Open up and share your feeling with a close friend or a family
member, as sharing your issues can alleviate some of that stress. Not only will
it help you to get things off your chest, but also you might gain a different
perspective about the situation. Ask someone whose opinion you respect.
4.
Practice Self-Control
Self-control is
the key that opens a lot of doors for new opportunities. It enables both
leaders and direct reports to process your strong emotions productively. It
helps to gain a neutral mindset as it is necessary to co-exist with your
difficult boss because reacting weakens you.
By efficiently
managing our feelings, we can achieve a calm and powerful presence. This helps
us create successful outcomes. You can also learn how to keep yourself
motivated by watching videos from the best motivational speaker in India-
Dr. Vivek Bindra. (Interlinking of video)
5.
Don`t Burn the Bridges
The world is
round. You never know whom you might meet and need this person as a reference
because many prospective employers of the organization ask specifically for the
contact details of direct managers and supervisors.
If you will be
unable to provide the contact details, it will give out a negative impression
and you will be required to give an awkward explanation.
As difficult as
it might be, always ensure that you leave your current organization by
following the official process. Do not allow the dynamics to compromise with
your professional reputation.
This should be
your last resort. Sometimes, despite making efforts, the possibility of
improving dynamics with your boss just doesn`t get better. Other times, it is
just not worth staying in an organization, if you feel miserable. It will not
only affect your mental health but also hamper your professional growth. Not to
mention the stress it adds to your day-to-day work life.
Ultimately, only
you know how to handle your situation, as you are the only one who knows it
best. Listen to yourself before taking any decision. If you decide to move on,
do not hesitate! Your ideal job is out there- the job that not only comes with
lots of opportunities but also with fulfilling work and a supportive boss.
You can also
listen to one of the best motivational
speakers in India to explore ways to tackle the stressful situation at
work.
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