PATIENT

LOVE IS PATIENT

Why are we impatient?

     We live in an age where we travel faster than the speed of sound, warm our food in seconds and measure time one hundredth of a second. We have become self-centered wanting our needs as early as possible. Unfortunately, issues in a relationship are like wine. They can’t be forced. Instead they mature in their own time. This many partners find unacceptable. Today about 80 percent of all couples who divorce live with regret. They admit they were too impatient and based their decisions on emotions instead of logic.

How to be patient.

·        Consistently motivate and guide your lover without regard to what she does. Partners get into relationships with their unique abilities and try to achieve partner identity as they encounter issues in relationships.

Some are slow learners, others stubborn, while others are afraid to commit themselves to marriage or wedding. You have to put the focus on you and become more loveable. As you improve yourself, your partner gets better. Suppress restlessness when confronted with delay. Allow your partner to grow at his own level.

 

·        Bear provocation, irritation and without complain when you don’t feel loved. When your lover gets into infidelity, he develops a compulsive obsessive disorder (a kind of mental challenge). He does not behave properly. There is no point nagging or trying to reason with him. With time the mental stimulation tapers off and you restore your relationship. Learn to control your reaction to the one you love.

 

·        Give space to your lover. Sometimes a man doesn’t want to discuss certain issues on certain occasions. Sometimes he wants to be alone to help him identify who he really is to enable him get better options to challenges in a relationship. Allow your lover to make mistakes. He will learn.

 

to be continued in the next blog