Is the Digital Age Making Our Kids Depressed?
by marcy sanford writerWhile many of the changes and challenges that tweens and
teens face are timeless - insecurity, body changes, new and, often unpleasant, kids body odor; others are brand new
thanks to the digital developments. Our children are the first generation to
grow up always having a smartphone in their lives with easy access to the Internet,
social media and digital entertainment. Researcher Jean Twenge has dubbed the
generation of children born between 1995 and 2012 as iGen.
As parents
we are facing new and unforeseen parenting challenges that most of us cannot
understand. When we were kids, if someone at school was bothering us, you were
most likely, able to forget about them once you were home but now with social
media and text groups, school bullies can reach your child at anytime anywhere
they are. If we were bored, we read a book or went outside, thought up a new
game or learned an old one. We didn’t turn to a little mobile device where we
could see pictures of everyone else having fun. Even as adults it can be
difficult to not feel a bit of jealousy when all your friends and acquaintances
– even those you barely know - seem to
be living a much more exciting and glamorous life then you. Face it, people
rarely post, I’m bored after doing laundry all day and am now eating a pint of
Ben and Jerry’s or “my kid has body odor”.
If we as adults can become overwhelmed by social media and the need to stay
connected to our phones, how can we expect our kids to be any different?
While the
title of Twenge’s new book iGen: Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are
Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy – and Completely
Unprepared for Adulthood – and What That Means for the Rest of Us may have
more words than most kids’ tweets or texts, it does have some outstanding
advice for and sobering information about the digital challenges facing our
children.
A professor
of psychology at San Diego University, Twenge has been researching generational
differences for nearly 25 years since she was a PhD student at the University
of Michigan. In her book she says she was, “used to seeing generational changes
happening slowly and steadily usually taking a decade or two of steady change
before becoming the norm,” but that in 2012 she started seeing large, abrupt
shifts in teens’ behaviors and emotional states.
Overall she
has found that teens are not hanging out with friends in person as much as they
used to, are in no rush to drive or date and are getting less sleep. But the
main problematic issue is that despite being constantly connected, they are
lonelier than other generations. And rates of teen depression and suicide have
risen rapidly since 2011.
It’s no
wonder that social media can lead to teen depression. According to Twenge the
average teen checks his or her phone 80 times a day. Constantly checking social
media to see what others are doing and then comparing your life to theirs can
easily lead to depression. But what can you do to keep your child off their
phone? Especially when, “everyone else is doing it.”
1. When
you say, “no devices at the dinner table,” mean it and follow the rule
yourself.
2. Make
your child charge any electronic devices that can connect to the Internet in
the kitchen or other family room overnight. Never let them go to bed with their
phone next to them.
3. Pick
a few days a month to go phoneless for the day. Take a trip to a state park or
local museum and leave your phone at home and encourage your child to do the
same.
4. Talk
with other parents and listen to the common issues like, “my daughter has body odor” or “my
son has body odor”.
5. Encourage
them to participate in sports or join clubs to stay active on the weekends.
According
to a national survey 7 in 10 young people are victims of cyber bullying and 37
percent experience cyber bullying on a frequent basis. October is cyber
security awareness month and the Department of Homeland Security issued lots of
great information throughout the month to help parents keep their children
safe. They offer these tips.
1. Create
an open and honest environment with kids.
2.
Start conversations regularly about
practicing online safety.
3.
Emphasize the concept of credibility to
teens: not everything they see on the Internet is true and people on the Internet
may not be who they appear to be.
4.
Talk to your children about the importance
of owning their digital lives and only sharing things that will not put them in
danger, negatively affect their future, or harm others.
5.
Watch for changes in behavior – if your
child suddenly avoids the computer, it may be a sign they are being bullied
online
6.
Review security settings and privacy polices
for the websites kids frequent. These settings are frequently updated so check
back regularly.
7.
Make sure mobile devices are secure. Use
PINs and passwords, only install apps from trusted sources, and understand the
privacy settings and permissions for all apps.
The rise of
the digital age doesn’t have to be the rise of the depressed age. Social media
can be a great way to stay in touch with friends and family who don’t live
close by but the key, as with most things, is moderation. In an interview with
the Philadelphia Inquirer, Twenge
said, “Sporadic use is unlikely to be harmful. Electronic device use was linked
to unhappiness and mental health issue only after more than two hours of use a
day.”
Helpful Resources –
Common Sense Media – Step-by-Step Tips to Set Up Your Kid’s
iPhone
https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/step-by-step-tips-to-set-up-your-kids-iphone
https://www.dhs.gov/publication/stopthinkconnect-parent-and-educator-resources
http://www.jeantwenge.com/igen-book-by-dr-jean-twenge/
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