Learn how to Focus your Anger

I'm going to start my article with a link from a valued friend of mine.

http://www.apsense.com/article/159186.html

His article takes me in a different direction. Many years ago, I owned a counseling practice called "Conflict Resolutions Counseling".

Where is this heading, there is usually more than one way to handle anger and  avoid  escalation to rage.

I was contracted by the courts to facilitate and one-on-one counsel family violence perpetrators (the people committing the offense). Suddenly my case load fell off, mmm. What is happening. I called a Probation Officer friend of mine and asked him if he was aware of any changes.

He shared with me that the court had changed the curriculum from 8weeks to 12weeks. Mmmm.

First thought, why wasn't I told. Anger! I fussed and fumed, no resolution. I called my mother and she had an awesome suggestion. She suggested I come to Kerrville with my curriculum and we revise to fit the criteria.  She helped me to focus my anger constructively. We completed the revision, the court accepted it and my referrals increased. Moral: If you cannot let your anger go, learn to focus it constructively. Example, in my relationship I get angry sometimes. Rather than fuss with my husband, creating an argument, I go do some housework.

As I was writing this article another event occurred that required refocus of anger. My bank called and asked if I had made some unusual purchases. One was Victoria Secrets for $211.88. Mmmm. The end result was someone has a credit card number (including name and address) of mine and WAS using it to make catalog purchases. My bank closed that card and is reissuing  a new card. I called my apparent credit card protection company. Seems they don't do that anymore, however, did not advise their customers. Bottom line, even though I was angry, I re-focused and said, OK find a company that will protect me. It just so happens we have such a person in our membership. I skyped and asked her how to enroll in her program. The paperwork is on its way. The awesome part, we were already members of the prepaid legal she is an affiliate for, so it is just a matter of upgrading. Had I let my anger distract me, there is no telling what the result would have been.

Focus your anger!  Don't let it turn to rage.

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Cheryl Baumgartner   Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance That also the power of being a member of a site like APSense. We have the ability to help each other when the need arises. I know you were speaking of focusing anger and this article gives me a constructive way to focus my annoyance at the spammers. Learn to build relationships instead of spamming. Get involved with the network and its members and you will find the rewards are great. and it's not just sales etc that you are rewarded with but great friendships can start right on networking sites. I just had to point out that lesson too! Dec 21st 2010 15:22

seve h.    Anger comes by many ways if we didn't eat food for a correct time . we can control our anger by meditation.And we need patience. Dec 21st 2010 15:41

Jerry Walker   Neat and Clean Floors, Inc. Thanks Patsy for that great & valuable lesson. True words of wisdom. I too have gotten angry on the job, but haven't been able to handle it as effectively as you. I will take in consideration all that you've said. Dec 21st 2010 15:51

Patsy j Payne   konnektions konsultant Thank all of you for your comments. The article was written on the fly based on my handling of anger. I handle the emotion that most people view negatively, as a motivation to create a positive attitude. I frequently learn something each time this happens. Dec 21st 2010 16:14

Robert Maturo   Internet Marketer I always have to keep my own emotions in check. Dec 21st 2010 19:58

Dewi Widjaja   bussiness owner of Danira Hijab focus and rilex...zero minded.. thats how i manage my anger Dec 23rd 2010 07:05