12 FACTS GUYS MUST KNOW BEFORE PROPOSING MARRIAGE

The question should I pray more does not always arise when a brother wants to enter into a relationship instead they will start asking themselves "Do I go ahead and propose to her? Now wait a minute before you jump the church layed down protocols in order to propose to that lady, get yourself aquaited to thses simple facts first:

#1. YOU MUST BE READY FOR MARRIAGE: You have to remember that proposing to that lady is not the end of the relationship, it is just the beginning. Please before you propose to that sister it means yyou must be ready to get married in the next six months or at most two years. Its not a child's play, marriage is meant for mature people/minds. So if you are not ready or prepared for marriage between an interval of six months to two years, dont go ahead and propose  to that lady. Because delay they say is dangerous and you cannot stand that risk of failing or breaking somebody's heart during a long period of courtship.

#2. HAVE A MIND OF YOUR OWN: Are you Mummy/Daddy's boy? That is one who always seek his mother's/fathers opinion before taking any decision or you still depend solely on them foe what ever you need. if you base all your life on them, or if you are the type that cannot take decisions on your own, then it means you dont have a mind of your own. Please go and work on yourself first before going to propose to that lady, else you will turn out to be a baby husband whose his matrimonial home will be controlled by his father or mother. learn to make independent decisions, that will actualy make you the head of the home or family.

#3. MARRIAGE DOES NOT GIVE ROOM TO DIVORCE: It is bettter for you to pray very well and be double sure that it is the will of God before you propose to that lady, because if the relationship gets to the alter where you will have no option than to say "Yes I Do" there is no going back since the author of marriage say no to divorce or seperation, in the holy Bible read the book Malachi 2:15-16. It is either you enjoy your marriage or you endure it. Please pray before you act, look before you leap, for there is no u-turn at that high way of marriage.

#4. RESPONSIBILITY: Before you make a move to that "Lady", you must be ready to shoulder responsibilities both physical and spiritual. Failing to do so will give you headache instead of peace. and you will end up committing sin against your creator (God).

#5. READY TO BE GUIDED OR INFLUENCED: If you are the type that only wants things done in your own way, then you have to work on yourself first. Allow your Pastor, your spiritual leader, or a marrirage councellor to guide you, before you make the move that involves your destiny so as not to regret at last. Go for councel, dont lean on your own understanding, do not break church protocol, follow the rule and the Lord will overrule all the plans of the devil concerning your future. 

#6. IT IS ALL ABOUT SACRIFICE: Love is sacrificial. So, before you make those moves towards that Lady, it means you must be ready to sacrifice your time, money, materials and most importantly, your kneels in prayer. ARE YOU READY TO SACRIFICE?

#7. BE TOLERANCE: Marriage involves two people i. e. male and female who hail from different family, background and ideas. If marriage must work, you must be ready to tolerate your partner because there will be alot of differences in you both in words and actions. Your ability to tolerate your spouse is the proof that you are matured. How are you relating with your elder and younger ones at home?

#8. SELFLESSNESS: Relationship demands selfless service. You have to let go or discard the attitude of selfishness so as to give room for selflessness in your union. Always look for what will please your partner and not yours alone. There are times when you will be drenched in order to satisfy your partner. These you have to continue even when they hurt.

#9. YOU MUST DROP ALL YOUR BAD ATTITUDES: The best way to stop a bad habit is to drop it totally. Before you enter into any relationship, you must make up your mind to do away with bad attitudes like Anger, Selfcentredness, Stinginess, Night Crawling, Friendship with the world, Greediness etc. All these above bad attitudes are capable of destroying your marriage and throwing your marriage into crisis.

#10. DEAL WITH YOUR EMOTIONS: Control your belt, learn to control your emotion before you forward your proposal. Emotional attachment is bound to begin during courtship, so you must be prepared to control your sexual emotions spiritually and physically so as not to "court sin" during your courtship. If you do God will take his hands off your relationship and devil will take over. Remeber the bible says Marriage is good but "The bed must remain undefiled until your wedding night. Hebrews 13:4. Deal with your emotions now before it destroyes your future.

#11. CRISIS : There is no marriage without crisis, love is not absensce of crisis but the ability to manage it well will definately give birth to healthy relationship. Crisis ranging from attitudes, styles of talking, biblical doctrines, family belief and cultures, dressing etc. may occur but you must not see divorce as an escape route or a solution to the crisis in your marriage rather handle it with love and pray about it. 

#12. COMMITMENT: It is a commitment that you will care for her all through, in thick and thin, it is not sentimental but total focus to provide security for the partner. It will make you think of what you will give to your marraige rather than what you wil get from it.  

I appreciate you despite your tight schedule yet you have given up little of your time to read through my write up. God bless you. Please don't just walk away like that. Please impress me with your comments...

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