Top 6 statements To Avoid When Meeting A Trans Person

by Pinky Tyagi Blogger & Writter

It is very normal to be curious concerning transgenderism. However, it is not wise to talk or ask questions about it. Think of it like this, you are asking something extremely personal to someone, and even if you don’t have any bad intentions it will sound bizarre. So, if you have recently discovered that one of your friend, cousin or a co-worker is a transgender person, do yourself and them a favor and avoid asking them below mentioned questions…

Top 6 things you shouldn’t tell a transgender person

1. You look just like a normal man/woman

Well, first of all understand that they are very much real and normal. They aren’t aliens. Now, if you were even trying to compliment your friend or even your trans escort, this is probably not how you should. Instead stick to normal compliments like - you look good, nice dress, hair, etc.

2. So, now you are a man/woman, right

Well, everyone figures out their own gender identity with time. The thing with transgender is they figure it out at a slow speed. Besides, when they did, they couldn’t act on it immediately. So, don’t ask any such questions which make them feel awkward.

3. When did you plan on becoming a trans?

Understand that this is a very rude question. Also, would you be asking this to your newly out lesbian or gay friend? Well, probably not. So, don’t ask it to a trans person either. Besides, they are born like it, they knew something was different with them since childhood, but it is not possible for a 5-year old to explain it. Is it now?

4. Are you going for a surgery?

Seriously, why do you even want to know this? How would you feel if anyone, apart from your gynecologist or urologist, would ask you about your genitalia? Completely bizarre, isn't it?

5. How do you have sex?

This is an extremely odd question to ask anyone, unless you want to be in bed with them. Now, if that is not your intention, make sure to avoid this one at all costs. You definitely don’t need to know who penetrates whom and how. However, if you are too curious, imagine how it will sound if you ask the same to your parents or siblings. It sounds very absurd.

6. What is your real name?

Their real name is what they tell you. It is not your place to ask if he/she changed their name once they figured out their sexuality. For instance, if a trans man was once named Tom and he changed it to Tiffany after figuring out who he is, it is his story to share, not yours to ask.

So, now you know what to discuss and what not to with your trans friend or escort. Keep in mind they are normal human beings and so they do get hurt. Therefore, don’t do or say anything which offends them, or make them feel out of place. Remember, they have already faced a lot in finally understanding what they are, you don’t have to put them through more.