This is some advice which will help you to forgive a friend, a relative or a
boyfriend/girlfriend who did something wrongs that hurt your feelings.
How to starts?
1. Think carefully. If this person has suddenly come back into your life and asked for forgiveness, do not make a rash decision.
Tell them you need some time to think about it, and you will definitely get back to them.
2. Take some time out of your day. Make sure you're alone, and in an environment that makes you comfortable. If it helps, cry.
Think about what this person did to you, and whether you can trust them not to do it again.
If you think you can, decide how close you want to become to this person.
Make sure you realize and think through the following:
• It is completely normal to feel angry or upset. But if you want to forgive this person and restore your trust in them, swallow your feelings.
It will be easier to forgive this person if there is not a big amount of negative feelings towards them.
• You must make sure it is a sensible decision to forgive this person.
Small, sometimes even medium hurts can be healed.
But it's also important to know whether the person is capable of hurting you again.
If what they did to hurt you was a bad habit of theirs, they are most likely to hurt you again.
For example, if a person lied to you, they would be more likely to do it again rather than someone who said one hurtful thing.
3. Contact the person. It is better to have a face to face chat, or at least a phone call.
Talk to them about what happened, why you have decided to forgive them, and tell them that you are giving them your trust once more.
4. Take things slowly. If this person is an ex girlfriend/boyfriend, meet up with them a few times a month for a coffee and a chat.
Try not to bring up things that happened in the past. Relive the story, but don't go back to the previous one.
What to do?
• Talking to a trustworthy person about your situation can help you sort out what you want to do.
• Find a way to express your feelings-drawing, writing, exercise, etc.
• Try to do hard work and format your brain about old memories on that someone.
• Remember to be sure of who is worthy of your trust. Nobody's worth your tears-unless they're happy ones!
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Comments (1)
Jan aka Jaz Green7
It is a blessing for someone who has hurt someone else to attempt asking for forgiveness ~ it is usually easier for them to act as though nothing has happened.
If someone actually asks for forgiveness, one should "automatically without hesitation" grant unconditional forgiveness and agree to instantly forget about it and move on.