A
vital, flourishing intimate life is an important component of male organ care, as frequent use gives
the member the exercise it needs to stay strong and nourished. While some
couples may prefer silent sensual activity, others find nothing more
tantalizing than a healthy helping of dirty talk. What this looks (or sounds)
like depends on the couple. In some situations, both partners may have
experience with verbal supplementation; other times, only one partner is
well-versed, so to speak, on the topic. It may even be brand new to both
partners. Some couples may like to engage in dirty back-and-forth, while others
may prefer to establish a speaker and a listener. There’s no one right way with
dirty talk; using it for better lovemaking requires both partners to
communicate their desires and needs.
The
following advice will help men introduce the topic of dirty talk with their
partners and, if the partner agrees to give it a go, learn some different ways
to proceed.
Boundaries
Whenever
considering the addition of a new element in a couple’s intimate life, it’s a
good idea to talk about it first. This helps a man know if his partner is open
to what he’s throwing out there and, if so, where the partner’s boundaries lie.
A
man can begin the conversation frankly: “Are you interested in dirty talk?”
Then, the conversation can get more detailed. Are there certain words – for
body parts or sensual activities, for example – the partner is particularly
fond of or uncomfortable with? Some partners like light dirty talk, sticking
mainly to observation and description, while others like more extreme forms
such as name-calling. Some basic ground rules should be laid out beforehand.
Observation/Description
Whatever
a man does, it’s important not to jump in too deep too fast. He may choose,
then, to stick with observation and description to start off with. He can
describe what he loves in the moment and how he feels. “You look gorgeous,” “I
love how I feel inside you,” “I fill you so well” – these are hot and spicy
descriptions a partner might love to hear.
Matching
Talk Intensity with the Moment
To
keep dirty talk authentic, it’s good not to force it. As stimulation increases
during sensual activity, one’s words can amp up in turn – naturally, honestly.
If comfort has been established with such things, a man may start using more
racy terms for body parts and for the act itself as he and his partner get
hotter.
Invite
the Partner in, Gently
Whether
or not a man’s partner is interested in playing an active role in dirty
dialogue, he or she may enjoy some level of participation. A good way to prompt
this is to ask a question: “Do you like when I __ your __?” “Does that feel
good?” These are questions that gently invite the partner to participate
without being too pushy.
Giving/Receiving
Orders
While
it’s certainly not for everyone, some couples like a little (or a lot of)
domination/submission in the mix. One element of this is giving or receiving
orders. The dominant partner tells the other what to do, being very explicit
about what he or she wants. “Now put your mouth on my __,” “I want you to ride
me” – these are just a couple examples. Partners may exchange roles throughout
playtime, or may prefer to remain in one role.
Name-Calling
Not
everyone is comfortable with this, but some people love being called names
during sensual activity, and these names range from more mild but spicy terms
like “bad girl/boy” or “dirty girl/boy” to more aggressive, derogatory terms.
While some people find it degrading, others – particularly those who like to
take a submissive role and serve as a sort of pleasure vehicle for their
partners – may get a thrill from this unmatched by other forms of dirty talk.
It should be noted that both partners
need to be comfortable with this; some people might not be comfortable calling
their partners names, and that’s okay.
While
dirty talk can fan the sensual flames, a dirty male organ will not. Along with
regular washing, the daily application of a male
organ health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man
Oil) can
help prevent skin tears and rough patches that trap bacteria. Look for a
product with natural moisturizers like Shea butter and vitamin E; vitamin A is
also a great feature, since it works to eliminate odor-causing bacteria. A
smooth, supple member is a major turn-on, along with all the fun words couples
can use to describe it.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common male
organ health issues, tips on improving manhood sensitivity, and what to do to
maintain a healthy member. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes
in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous
websites.