When Mutual Self-Pleasuring Isn’t So Mutual
by John Dugan Owner“Sensual relations” in terms of partners typically refers to
coupling, but the truth is that it can encompass much more, including mutual
self-pleasuring. For the adventurous couple, mutual self-pleasuring can be an
excellent way to expand their sensual horizons (especially when they keep in
mind appropriate female and male
organ care). Sometimes, however the experience may be more mutual than other
times.
Coming to terms
While it may seem that defining mutual self-pleasuring should be
easy, the fact is that not everyone would agree on its definition. For example,
many people would agree that mutual self-pleasuring could mean two people
engaged in sensual relations in which one is actively pleasuring the other
while simultaneously being manually stimulated by the partner. (And, of course,
this definition could also apply to such a shared activity between more than
two people.)
However, suppose the self-pleasuring is not simultaneous, but
serial? That is to say, “person one” manually stimulates “person two” until
release, then person two returns the favor for person one? To some, this might
not meet their definition of mutual self-pleasuring.
Similarly, there can be a situation in which person one
self-gratifies while person two simultaneously self-gratifies. Or a situation
may arise in which a man self-pleasures to completion while his partner watches,
then in turn he watches as his partner pleasures herself.
To some, each of these instances would qualify as mutual
self-pleasuring, while to others only one or some would.
Unequal effort
The above examples deal with situations in which the definition
is in question. More problematic are situations in which the effort going into
the self-pleasuring is not quite as mutual as it might be. For example:
- Tired out. One partner may be brought to release
quickly by the other, achieving a state of great satisfaction. However, the
sated partner may then profess to be a bit tired or to have a sore hand and may
suggest the still-enticed partner bring about a release on his or her own.
- Roughing it. On occasion, one partner may not know
the appropriate way to handle the other partner. A woman may pound relentlessly
on a tool, gripping far too tightly and not using any lubrication. Conversely,
a man may rush his fingers into a woman without properly preparing the way or
may rub in an aggressive, unpleasant manner that causes soreness rather than
sensual sensations.
- Too nice and easy. Of course, the reverse can also be true.
A person may handle the other's equipment too gingerly. A gentle touch is nice,
but a certain amount of friction is needed, especially where men are concerned.
- A bit of waffling. And on occasion, a partner may go back
and forth between deciding whether mutual self-pleasuring is right for them or
not. There's nothing wrong with changing one's mind, of course, but a partner
can still get frustrated in such a situation.
If a couple is good at communication, these issues can easily be
resolved by telling the other partner what feels good or discussing the best
way that the couple should proceed.
Whether considering mutual self-pleasuring, coupling, oral
activity or another option, a man wants to be sure that his equipment is in its
best health for the activity, which is where regular use of a superior male organ health cream (health professionals
recommend Man1 Man Oil) comes
into play. A roughly-handled manhood may have lost some sensation, and a cream
that includes a top-drawer neuroprotective ingredient like acetyl L-carnitine
may be just the ticket for restoring that lost sensation. It also helps to use
a cream with L-arginine, which is an aid to nitric oxide production and the
subsequent relaxation of member blood vessels that it encourages. Keeping the
organ in tip-top health is a boon to any man – and his partner.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common
member health issues, tips on improving manhood sensitivity and what to do to
maintain a healthy male organ. John Dugan is a professional writer who
specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to
numerous websites.
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