Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction
by Ulla Sarja Psychotherapist, educator, coachMindfulness is a state where you are living
in the present and participate in life as it unfolds, without values
and without wishing that it would be different. You
welcome everything coming on your way without hanging on to what is
pleasant or repelling things that are unpleasant. You don´t even
try to control what is going on, you just try to accept it and let it
be. The best examples of how to live in mindfulness are young
children. They are living in this state all the time, quite
naturally, they do not judge, they do not value but they are
curious about everything that happens. They do it unconsciously,
that's what is natural for them. In mindfulness-oriented exercises you are
trying to relive this state but now consciously. The
word Beginner’s Mind describes the feeling we are
trying to achieve, as if we were here and now for the
first time and saw and experienced everything the first
time with unprejudiced curiosity.
When practicing this kind of meditation and lifestyle,
you can make you whole life work better. You don´t need to worry about the
future or have feelings to have been failed when doing something yesterday. You
just live here and now, nothing more. You are already where you should be, so
don´t worry, being happy.
There are several exercises to find the way to this
kind of living; without stress and worries. There are some exercises you are
going to learn when reading further.
Every day is a journey
Every Day is a Journey...
and the journey is home. This quote really says it all; where you are, you are
at home. That is what mindfulness is about, only this moment and nothing more.
Sounds too simple? It does, I think, because I know it is not so very easy to
just stay in existence and.... Do what? Consider that you are looking through
different glasses, glasses that are not colored by their surroundings, they do
not enlarge or diminish either, but they only show what there is to see.
It's not that easy in real life as every one of us know, if you feel bad, you
feel bad, and in that particular moment these thoughts will not help. But in
the long run, they can be very helpful.
Imagine that you are walking along a familiar street. ... You see someone you
know across the street ... You smile and wave ... The other one does not
respond ... she or he does not seems not to notice you at all... she or he just
is going on without showing any sign to know recognize you.
What emotions are awakened within you?
What thoughts or images are
passing through your mind?
The power of your thoughts
The emotions that the situation I described in
the previous post arouses in you depends entirely on how you see yourself and
how you feel. Often we interpret the situation from our own thoughts and do not
take into account that you can never really know what the other people think.
The reaction to the other's behavior depends on the
story we tell ourselves, the learned automatic thought within us continually
interpreting everything we see and hear. If you do not feel well when the
situation occurs, you will probably interpret it as the other person
deliberately ignores you and no longer wants to know anything about you.
So this is probably how your internal monologue goes
on. However, if you feel well that day you might think that the other person
probably did not see you because he was just thinking something and did not see
you. And, this is about exactly the same situation, and it’s just your inner
voice acting as a critic or as a friend, and informing you what to feel.
Since this works as it should of course be entirely possible to
determine what the inner voice or "the man in the machine" may tell
you. If your answer is no, it means you are not able to choose what you should
think.
Peace is something that can only exist here and now.
It is absurd to say, "Wait until I finish this, then I will live in
peace." What is "this"?
A diploma, a job, a house or some payment you have to
do? If you think like that, you will never be able to live in peace. There will
always be a new "just this thing" after the former. If you do not
live in peace right now, you'll never make it in the future either. If you with
all your heart want to live in peace, you feel peace now, in this moment.
When we begin to feel lost or confused about various
aspects of our lives, our first instinct is to search for direction. We feel
sure that the answers we need are out there somewhere, and finding them will
help us to know the right way to turn.
While seeking advice and guidance from others can be
helpful at times, it is not always the best way to help ourselves. Rather than
relying on someone else to tell us our truth, we can instead choose to look
within and find the answers inside ourselves. Each of us has been given the
gift of an inner advisor that will never steer us wrong.
Otherwise, this is just about "the hope of
peace of mind sometime in the future."
-Thich Nhat Hanh, The Sun My Heart
Negative thoughts can trigger a depression or nourish
a temporary depression. All self-critical thoughts are triggered and we are
feeling worthless. This tends then to become a vicious spiral, "Why am I
so stupid?” Then you give an answer to yourself: "Because I'm so
worthless" ... and so on.
All people are unhappy at some point in their lives
and that in itself is not a problem but it is the negative values that we
place on ourselves that can lead to depression. If we are trying to see all
this as just thoughts, and not putting values on these, then we have the
solution. It's something you learn through mindfulness. If you let these
negative thoughts be activated, they will affect your body and your physical
health in turn has effects on your mind and emotions. The result: STRESS!
Mindfulness, meaning being consciously in this moment
is a perpetual, non-judgmental awareness promoted by attention. Conscious
presence is a natural part of life. It can be reinforced through practice. Such
practice is sometimes called meditation. BUT MEDITATION IN THIS CASE IS NOT
WHAT YOU ARE THINKING OF, I suppose.
Meditation is in fact
about being alert, and we can just use all our senses, even consciousness.
Mindfulness is a way to be friends with yourself and your own experiences. Our
experience includes of course very much, including our bodies, our minds and
the world. (Jon Kabat - Zinn, 2009).
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