A Beginner's Guide to Choosing Your First Sex Toy

If you’re just starting your journey exploring adult toys, you might be feeling excited, empowered, and a little nervous. When you’re completely new to the sex accessory market, it can be overwhelming to see all the options available and decide on the ones that are best for you.

With this comprehensive guide to choosing your first sex toy, you can navigate the process a little more easily. Start reading now to learn more about understanding what you actually want and finding toys that make sense for you.

Exploring Your Desires

Finding out what you want to try, what you actually like, and what your partner (if you have one) enjoys can be a long process. Your desires may also change over time, so frequent self-reflection and communication are essential.

Self-Reflection

It’s time to truly examine your wants and desires. Take a deep dive into what you like and consider more than just the physical things you crave. Consider the mental and emotional aspects you want to explore and the kind of experiences you’re seeking.

Don’t shy away from your desires because hiding from yourself will prevent you from truly finding ways to fulfill your needs.

Communication

If you have a partner, talking to them about what you’re looking for is essential when introducing sex toys. You should be discussing desires, fantasies, and boundaries regularly so that you’re creating an environment of trust and understanding. Let your partner know that you’re thinking of exploring sex toys and ask them if they’re interested in sharing similar desires.

Even if you don’t have a partner, it might be a good idea to discuss your thoughts with a trusted friend. Their own experiences and perspectives may help you make better choices for yourself.

Types of Sex Toys

Whether you visit a physical or online sex toy store, it’s important to understand your options. Take a look at the basics for explanations and definitions.

1. Vibrators

Vibrators are personal massagers that come in an array of sizes and shapes, as well as different speed and rhythm options. Some are designed for use internally, while others offer a combination of penetration and vibration. Consider the different features each type of vibrator offers to find one that resonates with your needs.

2. Dildos

Dildos are typically used for penetration and also come in so many shapes, materials, and sizes. If you’re looking for something lifelike, silicone might be the right choice for you, while glass and metal provide unusual sensations. You might need to explore curvature, texture, and size before finding the one that feels right.

Many dildos are also designed for hands-free use with suction cups. You can attach them to a hands-free sex mat that enhances solo and coupled experiences.

3. Couple’s Toys

If you’re in a relationship and hoping to explore toys together, couple’s toys are a great place to start because they include both of you in the experience. Some of the most common couple’s toys are remote-controlled devices, vibrating rings, and costumes for roleplay. Always discuss your fantasies in advance to ensure a positive experience for both of you.

4. Anal Toys

Anal play is different from vaginal play and has its own series of toys and accessories. Always start smaller for your few first times and make sure you get plenty of lubricants for a more comfortable experience. You’ll also want to check out some relaxation techniques that can help you more fully enjoy the experience.

Toy Materials, Budget, & Safety

In addition to finding the toys that actually enhance your sexual explorations, you should fully understand the different materials you’ll encounter. Budget and safety are also important considerations when first starting your journey.

Materials

Body-safe materials are a must when buying sex toys, as you don’t want to expose yourself to potential allergic reactions and irritants. Look for non-porous plastics that are easy to clean and medical-grade silicone for its hypoallergenic benefits. Some research into the materials of your preferred toys will also show you how to clean and store your accessories.

Cleaning

Proper hygiene is an essential part of toy care and maintenance. It improves the longevity of your toy and ensures sexual safety. Follow all the care instructions to see whether your toy needs mild soap and water, or if you need to buy specialized cleaning solutions. Most manufacturers will have guidelines to ensure a safe experience.

Budget

Like any other product, finding the right toy for you is a balance of cost, quality, and preference. You might choose to set a slightly higher budget that allows you to invest in toys that last longer and are safer and easier to use.

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