5 Questions You Should Ask a Girl in Chat Before Going on a First Date

by Mari B. Journalist and Blogger

Are you one of those people who find first dates awkward, nerve-wracking, and disastrous? Or do you find them exciting and wonderful? Well, it all depends on how you click with the other person. One such critical aspect that decides whether the second is in order or not is the conversation.

Yes, religion, politics, and global issues could make you seem smarter, but they do not necessarily help you connect with the other person. Instead, research tells us that a flexible communication style, engaging questions, easy back and forth, and open-mindedness make you easily connect with the other person. To regard all these, here are five questions. Yes, five questions because five questions are all that it takes to really get to know someone in the very first meeting.

 1.   “What’s your ideal version of a relationship?”

The reason for people to fall in love may be a mystery, but the reason they drag is even more elusive. So it is best to converse and really get to know their expectations. And this question does precisely that. It helps one discern if the relationship will be a long-lasting one. Or the first date is the time frame. Although a simple question, no one asks it. In fact, the idea of this question comes from Askme4Date.com (a dating service that holds a lot of profile information, making the process of choosing a proper question a bit more difficult. A good question to ink out of the crowd and show off as a deep personality owner.

2.   “What makes you unique?”

According to psychology, people like it when the conversation is about them. So intrigue them by asking about their passions, interests, favorite pastimes. Be subtle though, do not throw question after question; see if you both share the same interest — discuss it. Meanwhile, respect boundaries, do not ask them what they do for a living, how much they make — as the first date is all about showing interest in the person itself, and it has little to no space for irrelevant questions. Yes, many users on dating sites choose not to include their income because they do not want the money to be the reason for getting into a relationship.

 3.   “What are your thoughts on monogamy?”

Another weird yet profound question to ask on the first date is the thoughts on monogamy. And given today’s polyamory hype, it is worth asking. There is a good chance that you’ll get some eyebrows raised — but you can ask it subtly to make it resemble a random question and not a prepared one.

 4.   “Anything surprising happened today?”

The question brings out some playfulness into the conversation as it is a type of question that makes others ask the same thing to you. And whatever their response may be — yours definitely should be: “You1!”. Yes, it is not spooky and really will charm the person given that you proclaim them as a prize.

 5.   Be a good journalist and get creative

Not exactly a question, but without this, the guide would have been incomplete. More often than not, you will not get the time to throw in a question like the ones mentioned above. So get creative and follow the conversation along. It is far better than some pre-planned questions.

 

On a second note: don’t discuss politics, religion, and global issues: they do not make you seem smarter rather highlight your idiocy. Instead, as indicated, lure the conversations towards them.

Remember, the point of these five questions does not mean that you go and ask these questions as it is. Rather give thought to the conversation, see if they have something unusual about them. Listen more. Talk less. Indulge them.

And, of course, if all fails, you can always get the check.

 

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Created on Aug 18th 2021 05:46. Viewed 390 times.

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