Over the past several decades, medical research has resulted in
increased understanding of mood disorders such as anxiety and depression, and
this greater awareness has led to effective treatments that can help millions
of men and women lead happier, more fulfilling lives. However, in spite of
these advances, many men and women still suffer from the effects of anxiety,
often because they do not realize that they have a treatable condition, or
because they are too ashamed or embarrassed to seek help. One way that anxiety
affects men in particular concerns their ability to perform fully in the
bedroom. This problem can have a profound impact on their reproductive health.
How anxiety affects male sensual
performance
1) Physical and mental overload – anxiety affects the emotions,
of course, but it can also have profound physical effects. As the brain focuses
on dealing with the anxiety itself, most of its resources are concentrated on
this effort, and functions that are not life-sustaining are bypassed. This
means that responses like sensual attraction are sidelined until the anxiety
subsides.
2) Negative thoughts and emotions – anxiety comes with an
onslaught of negative thoughts and feelings that can overwhelm any positive
emotions such as feelings of sensuality and attraction.
3) Distracted thoughts – intimacy requires a certain amount of
focus, and as anyone who has dealt with anxiety is aware, the racing thoughts
and difficulty concentrating that come with the territory can make centering
the attention on a partner extremely difficult.
4) Stress hormones – when the body is under stress, as it is
when experiencing symptoms of anxiety, it produces increased levels of stress
hormones such as cortisol. Elevated cortisol levels are linked to decreased
levels of androgen, which results in a reduced desire and impaired ability to
perform.
Managing anxiety symptoms
The first step in dealing with anxiety can be the most
difficult, because many people who are affected truly believe that nothing can
make them feel better or that they are somehow “broken” and will not be able to
heal. This belief is typical, and it is part of the negative thought process
that is caused by the disorder itself, so it is essential that men take the
initial step to seek medical treatment. Anxiety can generally be managed through
a regimen of medications, counseling therapy and exercise – in fact, exercise
alone is often enough to diminish the symptoms if it is done regularly. Herbal
remedies and other alternative treatments such as yoga, acupuncture and
hypnosis may also help.
Coping with the sensual effects of
anxiety
Dealing with the sensual side effects is one important aspect of
breaking free of anxiety, and in addition to the treatments mentioned above,
the following steps can also be beneficial.
- Spend non-sensual intimate time. Spending one-on-one time with
a partner without the expectation of lovemaking is a very effective way of
bonding with a partner without the pressure of having to perform. Cuddling in
bed or simply watching a movie together can increase intimacy and stimulate the
production of “feel-good” chemicals in the brain.
- Make intimate time fun time. Rather than trying to be deeply
romantic and seductive, try to look at intimacy as a light-hearted and fun
encounter. A man can learn to laugh at himself a bit, especially when things
don’t go as planned. This way, intimacy becomes less of a performance and more
like play, relieving the pressure of having to perform to a self-imposed
standard.
- Engage in a little TLC. Women do it, and there is no reason
men can’t enjoy a little me-time as well. Make time to relax; enjoy a warm
shower or bath, and listen to enjoyable music. Get a haircut, trim the nails –
even a little manscaping can make a guy feel fresh and attractive. Applying a male organ health crème (health professionals
recommend Man1 Man Oil) can
also add a boost of self-confidence by enhancing the sensitivity and appearance
of the manhood skin; feeling confident in one’s appearance can be a big help
when it comes to relieving anxiety in the bedroom and beyond.