Is A Relationship Supposed To BeHard Work?

Relationships take time, patients, honesty, trust. Yes, they are hard, but anything worth having and keeping is always hard work. Generations now

Hi All,
Unfortunately, many people feel that because they have been hurt or disappointed by another partner or spouse that the only way to protect their heart is to "harden" it.
That of course, that does not work, because relationships mean to give and take ...
As Brenda said above, when it comes to relationships if we do not put in the work then
why bother?
Yvonne

Well said Yvonne and Michael .... I so agree and I have met a few people in recent times and they only out for themselves. What happened to the respect and lasting relationships that goes with it.

Of course they are work but different then a job type of work. You have to work at how you treat the other person and never take them for granted. If we do not put work into a relationship then why bother? You might as well just be alone because then you do not have to do anything

Very nicely said Yvonne.

For sure Michael B.!
Those two "acceptance and understanding" are a given in ALL viable relationships, but too many of us only want them for ourselves and don't give them others, be it our spouses, family, friends etc.
None of us are perfect and the sooner we absolutely accept that and not just give it lip service the sooner we will see that really the change we want to see in the world starts with us ...

Relationships should not be hard work. I agree with Yvonne that it takes mutual respect, but also acceptance and understanding. If these things are in place your relationship will be a smooth ride.

Yes and no! The best relationships are based on mutual respect and commitment.
The desire to see the other person's point of view and compromise and accommodate them as much as possible without losing your own values and authenticity.

If we regard others and want a relationship with them we will choose wisely and then the effort needed will be worth it to maintain them ...

Yes it is. This is because there is no permanency in nature. Changes in situations and circumstances may cause serious misunderstandings that may result in hurt. This will involve hard work to restore things to normalcy. Parties are not meant to be taken for granted. What will hurt one party may not hurt the other. That is why there is the need for serious study of parties involved in order to know what may be objectionable to the other. You don't just give a thrash because you are in relaltions

Exactly Richard, screw the hard work, if it ain't working just move on - loads of fish in the sea, short life, live it, no need to settle for anything less than ya want period.

If your relationship is hard work, you should find a new relationship!

A relationship is supposed to be smooth and enjoyed

100% agree with ya Kent....hard work is for actual work and relationships are for chilling down and being your relaxed self, screw the hard work.....and if it ain't working don't kid yourself, move on.....

Relationships should not be hard work. If a relationship is difficult, then perhaps those involved should end the relationship... if it's not fixable.

Yes, but the reward should be so great, that you won't mind investing the work in it.