Women Are Entitled To Happiness?

by Herry M. Business Manager

Dear Monika, I have been looking for love for a long time and I finally found it! I thought I would find it in my first husband, but after the first couple of months, he started beating me, manipulating me and treated me terribly. When I realized I had to get out, I made the difficult decision of divorce knowing that in a country like India, a divorced woman rarely gets a second chance at happiness. But I did! We have been dating for some time now and he’s a wonderful man. He is one of the most genuine people I have come across and has treated me so well over the past couple of years. He asked me to marry him recently, and I really want to say yes, but I’m afraid of what our families and society will say. Divorced or not, do all women (and men!) are not entitled to happiness?. Can you give me some advice?

Isn’t it sad that even though a woman goes through such horrors at the hand of her husband, she is made out to be the one at fault for leaving the marriage? Patriarchy really stands by the ‘till death do us apart’ huh? Well, what I’m going to tell you is not the opinion of the Indian aunties that gossip and bitch about a divorced woman, like they have no idea what it is like to be rendered helpless at the hands of their husbands! But you have found a man that does not hold your past against you, and is looking forward to a future with you!

How many women are lucky enough to experience that? Grab this opportunity by the horns and don’t let go! If your family has any objections, tell them that you were not meant to spend your life with a man that saw it fit to beat you and that this man will give you the love and respect that you deserve. It is easy for a family to say ‘you must do this because it is proper’ but they don’t know the realities of your situation, and if this man can give you what you have been looking for, then what else do you need? Be smart, stay safe and don’t let anyone make you feel helpless or that you don’t deserve what you want. Divorced or not, all women (and men!) are entitled to happiness.

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