What has Fear have to do with our Success?
November 18. 2011
What has Fear have to do with our Success?
What is fear first of all? Fear is an obstacle that has the ability to hold you back from whatever it is you set out to accomplish in life. Is fear really an emotional state of your mind or is it something else. Most of us create this illusion that we do not have what it takes to move on with our lives. But actually, fear is a motivator; that we did not even know until we encounter that fear.
We when encounter fears our whole body and mind changes drastically to challenge that obstacle we have just encountered regardless of what we are up against. Think of the times you have encountered fear and how you put up your guards to protect yourself from that fear or you ran away from it, but you did react to in a different manner. Fear has the ability to hold us back, for the simple reason, it takes full control over our emotions and mind.
Fear often interferes with our ability to live more fulfilling lives. Fear is the critical voice in our head saying: "You'll never succeed, so why to try?” Fear makes us listen to those voices and give up before we've even started. So how do we handle our fears and overcome them so they do not hold us back from success? Don't beat yourself up over mistakes you've made in the past and being fearful of starting new relationships, jobs etc. That gets you nowhere. Call a mistake an "opportunity for learning" and seek the learning in every "mistake".
When we let fear rule our lives, we miss out on opportunities and leads us to dismiss people and situations that could help us reach our goals. Fear comes in different guises and different forms - procrastination for example. Learning how to deal with fear is your first step to overcoming fear.
Here are a few key points that will help you deal with your fears learning and be able to handle is the first step in overcoming some of your fears.
-Get to know your fears
-Get to know the source of your fears
-Step into the things feared
-Make the negative flow stop
-Enlighten all
-Financial obligations
-Providing for our loved ones
-This list can grow beyond our belief, with all kinds of fears we face.
Logically, to overcome your fears, you have to be aware of their existence first. Once you learn what fears you have and why they have an effect on your performance you will be able to overcome them, one at a time…
All the Best,
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Comments (18)
Joseph Botelho15
Working on one project at a time.
Some very good solid feedback here since l last read this article, yes fear can be a motivator in your challenges and daily obstacles we all face. Without fear we are not read for that challenge so Paula you will do well because you can feel them butterflies in your stomach and it is telling you one thing, you will do good as the new coordinator of this new project you are facing....Fear is what you make fear to be.....Learning how to deal with fear is all you have to know to handle it to your a
Malok Mading10
Writer and Blogger.
Hi everyone,
Fear is fear of fearing things and a killer of those fear killing fear that is all I can say to add on to this. Great job well done Joseph.
Cheryl Baumgartner12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
You will do fine Paula
Paula van Dun6
Social Marketing works.
I am about to face an other challenge what scares me a little. I am about to lead a marketing project on another network. I never did that before. However people suffer the the most from the suffering the fear. I will probably find out that I can swim if I jump into the water
Trev Pearman7
IM Coach IMMACC mbr
Fear is a powerrful and strong emotional state created in our thoughts. You can learn to control fear or let fear control you! all the support in the world will never change your state of mind until you face your fear. My teenage son had a fear of heights, we gathered as a familly one day and chose to ascend to a viewing platform 160m in a prominant landmark building. He shaked and quivered, before even entering the elevator, we encouraged and advised him recogising his fear, I held his hand al
Joseph Botelho15
Working on one project at a time.
Is Fear actually an obstacle, or is it something that we have no desire to accept or already have accepted it...when we accept fear what happens to our emotions...how do we deal with them..what can we do about them.. When you really think about it, this article does make sense.
Joseph Botelho15
Working on one project at a time.
Nancy l like that definition of fear, l have never heard that thanks for sharing it makes good sense to me. Paula that is so true, many people never seek help in that field or many fields that they could get support and help for them to deal with their fears anxieties etc...we are only humans and we need that support to over come some of obstacles we do have to do it alone..
Nancy Radlinger10
Bringing Fun to TEland
This must be a hot topic as I just attended a webinar today and the gal was talking about the same thing. What I really enjoyed was the definition that was given for Fear and wanted to share with you.
FEAR = False Expectations Appearing Real
Paula van Dun6
Social Marketing works.
In Holland there is a saying that is relevant to this topic: people suffer the most from the suffering they fear. Meaning things are often not half as difficult once you decided to deal with them. Speaking from experience i can say this is true. I tackled many hurdles of which I doubted if i could take them up front. I surprised myself in managing most of the time. In many cases it was not as difficult as I anticipated. Sometimes it was difficult and I needed help. No shame in that. Nobody can b
Vishwajeet Kumar14
Blogger
Very Nice & good article. Thanks for sharing this.
Joseph Botelho15
Working on one project at a time.
How do we over come some of our fears, we tackle them one by one, learned what they are adjust your thinking and learn to deal with each every fear you have one by one...
Joseph Botelho15
Working on one project at a time.
Some really good replies on here...great examples that we all can benefit from....we all have fears in life this is without a doubt, how we handle them is the key to our results....Learning our fears and knowing about them will provide you with a heads up in the direction your life is going in. I fully understand one positive thing about fear...if you know what is that you fear, you will over come it....But you have to understand your fears......to progress forward....
Cheryl Baumgartner12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
One of the best examples of overcoming fear that I have ever seen in in the movie Dune when the Bene Jesuit mother tests Paul Atredies. Paul recites a mantra that puts fear in it proper place. "I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
Kharyn2
This article is very helpful since it helps us how to face our fears. We need a lot of courage to fight over it. When tested, let us think of the pro's and con's before facing this. Brevity is not the only weapon to overcome fear, but wisdom as well -- as to fighting in a battle.
Paula van Dun6
Social Marketing works.
I agree. And it gets easier when you have done it a few times
Cindy Bolley16
HHCTB?
I agree with Sean.... right up until the end. While I was reading your post I was thinking about the same quote..."Feel the fear and do it anyway" Loved that book. ..... Cindy
Sean North12
Business
Great article and insight as usual Joseph, fear is in our genes and our trigger to fight or flight, however in business and modern life many feel a psycological fear if they are removed or step outside their comfort zone, this is the fear that is easily conquered by facing it head on,it is also an indication that you are moving forward. I can't say it in any better words so I will use those of Susan Jeffers , "Feel the fear and do it anyway"
Joseph Botelho15
Working on one project at a time.
When we overcome and know what we are facing we have the ability to do what we desire, one fear at a time..