The Experience of Divorce

Well-meaning family and friends might say: "Take all of the money", "Burn his clothes", "Go get a girlfriend and show her!" How do you know what to listen to? These overwhelming feelings can get to the point where you no longer can think clearly or function well.

It's how the brain works to keep us surviving by shutting down critical thinking in the midst of a threatening situation so that you can react.

In a divorce the responding to the situation rather than reacting is where you will feel more in control.

There are many things to consider such as: How do you know if you should get an attorney? Further, could you and your spouse mediate successfully and how do you determine that? How do you find divorce professionals and how do you know if you have a good one? How will you handle separation and divorce conversations with your kids? who is your ex calling And what about the money? And then, will you ever feel okay again? Will life go back to some kind of new normal? People think they should just know how to "Do" divorce.

Many of my clients become frustrated that they don't know how to navigate forward by believing that because they know people who have divorced they should easily be able to figure this out and handle it well.

Divorce is one of the most stressful life-changing events.

Divorce not only impacts you but also your kids, your extended family, friends, and your day to day homeostasis.