My STD Story – I Am Not Ashamed of itby Jason John Dating coach@hivpositivedatingsites
I Got genital warts when I was 20 years old. From my first long-term boyfriend, we'd been together like three years and were going to be a part of different countries for a long period. He ended up sleeping with one of my friends. While we had this open relationship, we agreed that he would always use condoms. I got back to new york assuming and trusting that had happened and then he got a case of warts all over told me that he hadn't used a condom.
So I felt betrayed and sad and lost trust, so I ended up breaking up with him and spending a few months nervous and freaked out that I was going to get warts too and checking in the mirror every day like bending over like checking all my skin and then about three months later.
A little wart popped upright on the skin of my vagina and another one like kind of back near my perineum, and I felt horrified like I felt like my life was over. I felt like no one would ever have to date me again. I felt ashamed and disgusted with all kinds of stuff, and I went to the doctor. I got a little cream they went away about a year later. I fell madly in love with this guy on a holiday romance, and he was going to come back from Australia, and we were going to spend this like epic two weeks together and right before.
He got back, I found another one, and I went and got it burned off, but I knew I had to tell him, so the night he got there, I was freaking out. I thought he wouldn't want to be with me. I thought he would be just disgusted, and I told him about what genital warts are. I told him that I had him. He was like, I'm not going to die. I was like, no. You're not going to die. He's like, all right, that's cool. I love you, and that in itself was amazing and healing.
They never came back after my body cleared the virus, but I'm sharing this with you because as I did a lot of research, immunology at Stanford grew a lot in my understanding. I was like, how can we feel so much shame around STDs. I got genital herpes, I have cervical HPV in my cervix, I have chlamydia gonorrhea, and they feel so horrible about it, and I think about it. If you get flu from your lover, you feel dirty like no one wants the flu, but you don't feel ashamed.
If you get the cold from making out with someone at a bar, you don't feel guilty or that you did something bad. Still, as soon as it's on our genitals, all of a sudden, we feel horrible, like there's something so wrong with us. I thought back, you know I did dating education in the state of Georgia, and one of my first introductions to dating was these huge photos of like penises and vaginas just like disfigured with herpes and warts and all kinds of stuff. It was horrifying, and so it's so like we associate so deeply that these things we should be ashamed of them.
We should be terrified of them now. That's not saying that you don't want to protect yourself get tested. Use protection. Of course, you do. No one wants a virus, but if you get a virus, it doesn't mean that you need to feel guilty shamed any of that stuff. the truth is that every woman in my generation that I've talked to has had HPV in some form, either cervical HPV or warts on the skin.Don't be ashamed of being rejected by your partner because of your status. be positive and move from there and if they really love you they don't need about your virus and also when disclosing your herpes status you need to know few important tips.
Pretty much almost everyone I've talked to has gotten genital herpes. It's like half, or even more of the population has it, so if you have that, you're not alone. So many of us have herpes viruses, so I get herpes simplex once I get the little cold sores on my lips. We've all had herpes simplex three. Guess what that is? It's chickenpox. You feel like people are dirty and disgusting because they had chickenpox no epste in bar virus aka mono and a herpes virus number four most of us have also had that, and we don't feel ashamed.
So I'm just telling you this to let you know that the shame isn't real. You don't have to feel that way. You want to look out for yourself. You want to be healthy, but you don't feel like a shameful person when you get any other virus in your system. It's only a sexually transmitted disease, and there is nothing shameful about that. If anyone rejects your love for your STDs status, then visit STD Dating Sites, which is you don't need to disclose your status to anyone, and all profiles are made 100% secure and safe.
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