He Broke My Heart And Now He Wants Me Back – What Should I Do?

It takes a long time to get over the one who left you behind. Sometimes you never get over him. So, when he turns up in your life again like a bad penny, it's sometimes hard to "just say no". Even worse, your traitorous heart might be screaming something else entirely. The worst part of all though is that you are really torn about what your next move should be.

Head vs. Heart

It's your head against your heart in a smack down bout that any Vegas arena would be proud to host. But, you don't have the sellout crowd to deal with. You simply have the scars from the last time you fought this fight and you're struggling to decide whether or not you can take another round.

What Your Head Might be Telling You

Your head is the one that wants to guard your heart from the pounding it might take if you let this guy in another time. It remembers, all too well, the beating you took last time you gave love with this contender a shot.

Your head is going to remind you of the big-time sucker punch in the end that ultimately took you down. It's going to remind you of all the time it took to get back up again. It's going to remember all the hard knocks you took just to be able to stand on your own two feet once more.

What Your Heart is Screaming at You

Your heart on the other hand was never able to just turn off the tidal wave of emotions you feel for your ex. He may have put the hurt on you in a way that no other man before or since has managed to do; but that doesn't change the fact that your heart is soaring at the chance to dance the dance with this guy once again.

Your heart remembers the good times. Your heart understands that stuff happens in life and in love and that the heartiest hearts are the ones that are willing to risk love again knowing the risks – and, perhaps, because the stakes are so high.

Figuring Out What YOU Want to Do

The most important thing for you to do right now is avoid rushing into any rash decisions. Don't give the knee-jerk response that immediately comes to mind. Sleep on it for a while. Let him sweat it out for a change. Even if you know that in the end you're going to give him another chance and take the risk that getting your ex back provides, it's better to avoid letting him think you're an easy mark. Make him work for it this time around – just a little bit.