Basic Steps For Choosing A Surrogate Mother

Adoption of child has been traditionally followed by singles and couples who cannot give birth to a child. But many gays, lesbians are not comfortable with this adoption way and they want to have a child “of their flesh”. Surrogacy allows the lesbian women and gay men who cannot or who do not wish to bear children.

A woman who carries a child for someone, usually an infertile couple is a surrogate mother. There are two type of surrogacy, (1) Traditional surrogacy which is done by fertilizing the egg of the surrogate mother by artificial insemination. (2) Gestational Surrogacy where the egg is fertilized in the lab, and then transplanted to the surrogate’s uterus when the fertilization is successful.

Surrogacy allows the infertile couples to parent a biological child. Choosing a surrogate mother is a difficult and delicate task. The initial stages of selecting the surrogate are very much important as the decisions taken will have a lasting impact on your family. The Fertility Clinic – IVF Solutions is a leading successful Surrogacy centre in Delhi among the various Surrogacy centres in India. It has the agencies to provide surrogate mothers.

Interview the surrogate mother: It is very much important to interview the potential surrogate mother as there are many factors to be determined whether the woman is the right person to carry the child. The physical health, emotional well being, genetics and the support network influences the development and well being of the child. And also you have to consider the legal, medical and financial matters involved in it.

Raising the following questions in the early stages will help to weed out the surrogates who will not mesh with your vision and well being of your family.

• Get the concern of the surrogate mother, whether she is ready and comfortable to carry a child for gay man or couple
• Verify whether she is physically healthy for surrogating a child.
• Get her concern whether she can handle the emotion side of surrogacy as she has to give up the child after carrying it for nine months.
• Check whether the surrogate mother has a strong support network as her husband and children should be ready to accept her decision and support her during her surrogacy.
• Discuss with her whether she is comfortable with the medical treatment for surrogacy. A surrogate mother needs more medical treatment, daily injections and her co-operation is very essential for the successful birth of the child.
• Discuss with her the legal ramifications of surrogacy. After giving birth to the child, it may be biologically related to het but she has to give up her rights. Ensure that there are no forms of misunderstanding or loopholes legally. It is advisable to have legal counseling to carry out the surrogacy agreement.
• Discuss the mode of Reimbursement and her expectations. The mother’s emotional stability, physical health and compatibility may be of great concern to you but payment to her is a major issue particularly for the surrogate. Even though the intended parent pay all the medical, hospital and counseling expenses, the cost extends to the monetary gift of appreciation to the surrogate mother. So it is important to discuss and finalize it early.

Make the right decision: Choosing a surrogate is not an easy decision. When you weigh the pros and cons of the women chosen for surrogacy you may feel overwhelmed in taking the decision. However, you need not be hasty in taking the decision. Take time to gather all the information and make the decision that will support your desire of having a family. This is a decision that can affect your family life as well as your child. The Surrogacy cost in India is low when compared to surrogacy cost in western countries. Contact The Fertility Clinic – IVF Solutions to get to know the Surrogacy process and cost in Delhi, India.