A Freud in need… Success psych 101
A Freud in need… Success psych 101
Perspective,… is the glass half empty or half full, is achieving a goal on the road to your dreams a success or just a step on the path to your dreams? Is it personal or does it come from sources outside of you. Who can gauge what is and is not important to the measurement of your success.
You do of course, it is up to you to decide what counts as a victory and what is a failure. But how does that relate to other people? I like spinach, do you? If your Vegan the thought of a nice juicy sirloin is not appealing, me I drool.
So if you do not know what I want or like and I do not know your like or dislikes and neither of us understands the wants and needs of the other… how do we relate to one another? We don’t, and that right there is the key ingredient to why you are still looking for success and failing at it.
Right about now your looking at this and saying “what the heck is this guy talking about?” how can my likes and dislikes have anything to do with my success. Well folks its not yours but the wants and needs of other people that are keeping you down.
Its not that they are trying to keep you from succeeding but rather that you are so interested in what YOU want and so focused on fulfilling your needs that you blithely and blindly ignore everyone else’s needs and wants.
I have for decades followed a personal rule that says “Everyone will give you something in return for getting what they want”. Thousands of books have been written about success, books on how to make the man/woman of your dreams fall in love with you etc. Trust me the list is long.
Yet despite all this info right at your finger tips your missing the point…
“IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU!” it is ALWAYS about THEM! You know, the people you want to join your business, the person who’s heart you want to win, the boss you want to fire.
Psychology 101 says that if you give a person what they want they will most often have a unspoken obligation to you. That obligation comes in the form of you having a measure of authority over them and if reinforced a measure of their trust in you.
If you truly and honestly want to succeed in life they you need to surrender your ego right here and right now because until you do your not going anywhere. Learn about people, get to know they find out what they want and help them get it.
Just a note… I’m not suggesting you assist the local hoods in boosting TV sets or giving the dealer a hand passing out free samples of crank to the school kids. I am talking about honest, ethical and legal goals that people all around you have. Help them and you become known. Become known and you have authority. Have authority and what you say will be listened to and often acted upon.
Please don’t go overboard and try to be Freud, just be a friend.
NOTE:- If you like my writing I post daily to my blog www.theprimusreport.com
All links to follow me on other networks are there as well,
Also complimentary copies of most of the books I write.
And links to Proven Paying Programs, Tools and Advertising sources
Perspective,… is the glass half empty or half full, is achieving a goal on the road to your dreams a success or just a step on the path to your dreams? Is it personal or does it come from sources outside of you. Who can gauge what is and is not important to the measurement of your success.
You do of course, it is up to you to decide what counts as a victory and what is a failure. But how does that relate to other people? I like spinach, do you? If your Vegan the thought of a nice juicy sirloin is not appealing, me I drool.
So if you do not know what I want or like and I do not know your like or dislikes and neither of us understands the wants and needs of the other… how do we relate to one another? We don’t, and that right there is the key ingredient to why you are still looking for success and failing at it.
Right about now your looking at this and saying “what the heck is this guy talking about?” how can my likes and dislikes have anything to do with my success. Well folks its not yours but the wants and needs of other people that are keeping you down.
Its not that they are trying to keep you from succeeding but rather that you are so interested in what YOU want and so focused on fulfilling your needs that you blithely and blindly ignore everyone else’s needs and wants.
I have for decades followed a personal rule that says “Everyone will give you something in return for getting what they want”. Thousands of books have been written about success, books on how to make the man/woman of your dreams fall in love with you etc. Trust me the list is long.
Yet despite all this info right at your finger tips your missing the point…
“IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU!” it is ALWAYS about THEM! You know, the people you want to join your business, the person who’s heart you want to win, the boss you want to fire.
Psychology 101 says that if you give a person what they want they will most often have a unspoken obligation to you. That obligation comes in the form of you having a measure of authority over them and if reinforced a measure of their trust in you.
If you truly and honestly want to succeed in life they you need to surrender your ego right here and right now because until you do your not going anywhere. Learn about people, get to know they find out what they want and help them get it.
Just a note… I’m not suggesting you assist the local hoods in boosting TV sets or giving the dealer a hand passing out free samples of crank to the school kids. I am talking about honest, ethical and legal goals that people all around you have. Help them and you become known. Become known and you have authority. Have authority and what you say will be listened to and often acted upon.
Please don’t go overboard and try to be Freud, just be a friend.
NOTE:- If you like my writing I post daily to my blog www.theprimusreport.com
All links to follow me on other networks are there as well,
Also complimentary copies of most of the books I write.
And links to Proven Paying Programs, Tools and Advertising sources
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Comments (6)
Udo Hoffmann14
Erudite polymath
"The closed mind, like the fist can not grasp anything new" Quotes from the White Raven
Ray Van7
Marketing Success Coach & Entreprenuer
To be a friend would mean to take interest in more than just oneself.
Rob aka Cerberus17
Better World Partisan
"Man becomes great exactly in the degree in which he works for the welfare of his fellow-men." (Mohandas 'Mahatma' Gandhi) - Selfishness and greed are leading nowhere, so do not be afraid to share / give away the surplus in whatever You have without expecting anything in return, life will balance it with things You need!
Cheryl Baumgartner12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
I have learned to stop buying into 'simplicity'. I no longer believe in positive always being 'right' or negative always being 'wrong'. What we consider negative has often been the basis of very positive outcomes. Half full half empty does not matter, your reaction to it matters. The person who sees as glass as half-empty and recognizes that there is more room in that glass is the one more apt to get up and refill that glass now aren't they. But we are consistently taught that seeing the gl
Réka Lukács2
I consider myself an optimistic person, so to say that the glass is half full!
Vps Malhotra16
Free Lancer
One wonderfully amazing Article where one is required to put one's thinking "caps" on!
WOW!! Hoffmann you are "out of the box" thinking personality striking the nail on its head !
Well "101" mind set is not even a fragment of the whole subconsious which has to be "reprogrammed " for winning in any situation but prior to that one has to have an empty mind to allow the truth to soak in!
The "cup" has to have to be EMPTY !