Self-Esteem and the Business World

Building Your Self-Esteem
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self-esteem in a
tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter
guide to self-improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else
around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart
pins will destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in ways you won't
even remember. Don't let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So
which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of "dog eat dog" theory where everyone else is fighting just
to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No
one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and
dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much
without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this, it will
ruin your self-esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy
enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People's Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers,
snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers,
exploders, patronizers, sluffers all these kinds of people will pose
bad vibes for your self-esteem, as well as to your self-improvement
scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can't be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our
paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we
think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress
but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be
there forever, we must be susceptible to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It's okay to cry and say "ouch!" when we experience pain. But don't
let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and
swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you're looking at. Don't wrap yourself up with all the
negativities of the world. In building self-esteem, we must learn how
to make the best out of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end
product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic),
and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company,
the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity. If
your father is a failure, it doesn't mean you have to be a failure too.
Learn from other people's experience, so you'll never have to encounter
the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or
positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a
choice. Building self-esteem and drawing lines for self-improvement is
a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn't come down from heaven
and tell you "George, you may now have the permission to build
self-esteem and improve your self."
In life, it's hard to stay tough specially when things and people
around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battlefield, we
should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick
those that are bullet proof. Life's options give us arrays of more
options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a
bulletproof armor ideally means self change'. The kind of change which
comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things:
our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Building self-esteem will eventually lead to self-improvement if we
start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we
do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire
from inside and out. When we develop self-esteem, we take control of
our mission, values and discipline. Self-esteem brings about
self-improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you
start putting up the building blocks of self-esteem? Be positive. Be
contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to
compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self-esteem,
your starter guide to self-improvement.