A healthy sensual life includes some amount of self-pleasuring.
Men enjoy this activity a great deal (and why not?), but most do not enjoy
being caught during this pleasurable pursuit. Sure, giving the organ plenty of
exercise is part of appropriate male
organ care, but the fact remains that it can be a bit off-putting to be caught
with one's pants down and in mid-stroke. Knowing how to handle this situation
is essential.
Caught
by a roomie
A guy's hormones are bouncing all over
the place when he's in college or in another situation where he's sharing a
space with another young dude. Even when a guy is engaging in plenty of partner
sensual activity, he's still going to have many nights when he just wants to
take matters into his own hands.
Of course, a guy caught by his roommate
has an advantage: His pal is most likely as fervent a self-stimulator as he is.
He may make a few jokes, but most guys can just fall back on the "Oh, like
you never do it" defense. If he does make a big deal about it, simply
remind him that this is a natural activity that everyone does, and then come up
with a system to prevent this from happening again. (For example, when
self-gratifying, the dude will put a post-it note on the door and his roommate
will knock and wait for an "all clear" if he needs to use the room.)
Caught
at work
Men get insistent hard-ons at all times
of the day; sometimes sneaking a quick one in at work is just a fact of life.
But getting caught at work can put one in a more delicate situation.
First, if one is going to self-stimulate
at work, it's best to do so in the men's room. If one must do it at one's desk,
it must be in a private office with a door that locks. Borrowing someone else's
office or unleashing the manhood in the supply room is just not cool. Using
office computers for visual aids is very risky and can lead to disastrous
consequences.
If caught, the response depends on who
does the catching. If it’s a male colleague, try to shrug it off with "I
couldn't help myself." If a female co-worker does the catching, apologize
and ask (or plead) with her to keep this to herself. If a boss is involved…be
ready to beg for mercy.
Caught
by a female partner
This can be the most difficult situation
for a guy – mainly because some women think that a partner who self-pleasures
must not be satisfied with her on a sensual basis. It's important to talk with
one’s partner and to explain that partner sensual activity and self-pleasuring
are not equated in that way. Most men enjoy both partner sensual activity and
solo sensual activity, and they can be having an enormously happy and
satisfying partner sensual life and still enjoy playing with themselves.
It's important to remember that there's
nothing wrong with self-pleasuring and not to feel ashamed of it. At the same
time, a man wants to make sure that his partner's fears or insecurities are
allayed and that she understands that engaging in self-love doesn't in any way
negate the wonderful feelings he has for her.
Men whose rates of self-pleasuring are
higher have a greater chance of being caught – and increased activity also
increases the chance of rubbing the member a bit raw. Using a first-class male organ health crème (health professionals
recommend Man1 Man Oil) can
help when solo sensual activity leads to soreness. A crème with a high-end
emollient like Shea butter will help to diminish that member soreness and keep
the manhood ready for more adventures. And one with a potent antioxidant like
alpha lipoic acid can also offset the early on aging of male organ cells that
results in that wrinkled manhood look. After all, if one is going to get
caught, he wants his member to look as presentable as possible.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common
male organ health issues, tips on improving member sensitivity and what to do
to maintain a healthy manhood. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes
in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous
websites.