Fingering sounds pretty simple: Insert finger(s); pump in and
out. However, there’s a lot more to it than that – at least, there is when a
man really wants to send his partner into a fit of pleasure. There are many
things men can do to improve their partners’ sensual enjoyment, including
maintaining proper male organ
health and learning new
positions. But taking a night here and there to focus on her and leaving the
male organ out of it can be a real treat for her, and may lead to hotter
sensual activity in the coming days. The following fingering tips will help a
man give his partner a night she’ll surely remember.
1)
Prepare. There are things a man should do before
he’s even in the same room as his partner if he intends to enter a fingering
session. It’s very important that he tend to his fingernails, making sure they
are clean and trimmed. Any hang nails should be dealt with prior to getting
anywhere near a woman’s sensitive area. He should also be sure to have lube on
hand in case that is needed.
2) Ask
her. Some women may be used to fingering as strictly a pre-play
activity, and may be expecting lovemaking to follow. A man should be upfront
with his partner about not intending to follow up with penetration. Ask her:
“Is it okay if we just focus on you tonight?” She should know that the reason
for no follow-up sensual activity is not a lack of desire on the man’s part;
it’s rather that he wants to please her in a new way.
3) Get
her going before going down there. When fingering is the featured event, it
may be more enjoyable for her if there’s pre-play involved. Kissing and
caressing are good places to start. Focus on her above-the-belt hot spots –
neck, ears and chest, for example. Don’t cut right to the chase; a man can try
running his fingers along the outside of her panties, stimulating her “C-spot”
between the lips gently, teasingly through the fabric.
4)
Consider double stimulation methods. There are many different methods a man
can employ to increase her pleasure. Most women require external stimulation to
achieve release, so he can consider different ways to stimulate her C-spot
while his fingers are inside her. He could use one hand, with his index and
middle fingers inserted and his thumb rubbing her on the outside. He could also
use two hands, with the dominant one working the outside and the other working
the inside. And, of course, he could rely on his tongue for external
stimulation while he fingers her.
5) Beef
up on technique. What a man does with his fingers in
there can determine whether she enjoys herself or not. He can pump in and out,
varying depth and rhythm, feeling and listening for her response for cues as to
what she’s enjoying most. Also, G-spot stimulation is generally considered key
for a good fingering session. The G-spot is located one to three inches on the
anterior wall of the female organ, and can be tricky to find. One good method
is to insert a finger or two with the palm facing up, then to crook the
finger(s) in a “come here” motion. Her response will be the best indicator as
to when he’s hitting it. Varying the rhythm of G-spot stimulation can be
immensely pleasurable. He can also mix it up by rotating his wrist for
side-to-side stimulation rather than only using the crooked finger motion.
6) Play
with positions. A woman can lie on her back with legs
spread while a man either props himself up next to her or sits between her legs
facing her. The woman may prefer to drape her legs over the side of a couch or
bed. Also, a couple may enjoy having the woman sit on the man’s lap with her
back pressed against him and her legs spread wide; this can be particularly
intimate.
After a night focused on her pleasure, a
woman may feel inclined to treat a man in turn. Most men love a round of oral,
and women know that. To increase the odds that she wants to take him in her
mouth, a man should keep his rod as inviting as possible. This involves dealing
with any skin issues or unwanted odor that may be present. Using a male organ health crème (health
professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) can go a long way toward these ends.
Vitamin A is a great ingredient in such a product, since it cuts down on
bacteria that can cause odors on the manhood. Natural moisturizers (like Shea
butter and vitamin E) address dry, chafed skin, ensuring that the manhood skin
is smooth, soft and pleasant to the touch. Such a product will increase the
odds that a man’s partner will return the favor of a memorable night focused on
him.