A guy usually starts self-pleasuring when he is a teenager and
continues throughout his life. That naturally means that married men continue
self-pleasuring, even when they are the recipients of regular sensual activity
with their partners. Frequent releases, including from self-stimulation, help
to ensure male organ health, so
this is perhaps to be expected. Yet many men feel shame about self-pleasuring
while married, and this raises the question: How open should a husband be about
stroking himself?
How
many self-gratify?
No one can say for sure how often
married men self-pleasure. One online survey found that 87% of its male married
respondents said they had self-stimulated in the last three months before
taking the survey. (Of the men surveyed, 9% self-gratified daily or more; 30%
reported self-pleasuring between one to three times during the three month
period.) Another survey found that 85% of men who were married or living with
another person self-stimulated.
Assuming that these statistics are
somewhat accurate, it’s clear that most married men do not stop engaging in
solo sensual activity once they are married. Do their wives know this?
According to the first survey referenced above, only 15% of wives knew how
often their husbands took sensual matters into their own hands.
Open or
not?
Should a man be open with his spouse
about his organ stroking habits? There is no universal answer. A great deal
depends on several factors:
- How comfortable does the man feel about
his self-pleasuring? Many men have associations of guilt and shame connected to
manhood fondling. They don’t like to admit that they play with themselves to
even their closest friends – even if said friends have no problem referencing
their own self-fondling activities. In such cases, a man must feel very
positive that the information will be received by his wife in an appropriate
manner. Which leads to:
- How receptive does he think his wife
would be? Some women do not really want to know how often manhood beating goes
on when they’re not around. They may assume that their husbands are above what
they may consider base desires or they may assume that the men self-pleasure
because most men do – and some women are fine with that. Hopefully, a man and woman
in a relationship know enough about each other to be able to predict the
partner’s level of interest in this subject.
- Does he want to share this
information? Many men may not want to make public the details of their solo
sensual life – not because they are ashamed or feel guilty, but because it is
something that he does by, to and for himself, and he feels his privacy should
be respected.
- Is the activity related to a
problem? Sometimes a man may self-gratify as a way of escaping or
avoiding something. He may self-stroke because he feels angry at his wife but
cannot express this. Or he may feel coldly toward his wife and decide he would
rather pleasure himself than engage in sensual intimacy with her. If this kind
of activity is consistent, the solo activity may be a sign of a larger problem.
Talking about why he is self-pleasuring in these instances may be a way to
address these issues.
It should be noted that openness about
self-stimulation varies considerably. Some men stimulate their tools furtively
and in secret; others may think nothing of fondling themselves while they watch
TV with their wives. Finding the appropriate degree of openness depends upon
the people involved in the relationship.
Of course, self-pleasuring sometimes
leads a man – married or otherwise – to male member soreness from
over-enthusiastic engagement. Using a top-drawer male organ health crème (health
professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) with the natural moisturizing power of
Shea butter and vitamin E can help alleviate such soreness. If loss of
sensation due to rough handling is an issue, a crème that also includes
neuroprotective acetyl L-carnitine can help; this ingredient’s ability to
counter peripheral nerve damage makes it invaluable in restoring lost
sensitivity.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common
manhood health issues, tips on improving male organ sensitivity and what to do
to maintain a healthy member. John Dugan is a professional writer who
specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to
numerous websites.