There is a certain degree of fear that exists within any relationship.
For some people this fear is overwhelming. They will avoid dating or
pursuing relationships due to the fact that they are scared. They may
have had bad experiences in the past. They may just be shy or have their
own reasons for being afraid.
Some people simply have a fear of commitment. They may be afraid of
losing their freedom. They may not want to risk being hurt. They protect
their heart and do not want to risk anything happening to it. No matter
what the issue is, it is well documented that in some cases fear will
control a personís life. They are not capable of functioning effectively
within the world. This creates a major problem and can devastate some
people.
The first thing to do in conquering fears is to admit that you are
afraid. Be willing to say you have a problem. This is often the most
difficult step on the process of overcoming the fear. Once you can open
up and talk to people, they will be able to see that you get the help
you need to get better. If you do not talk about your fear, there is no
way for anyone to help you deal with it. You may not be dealing with it
yourself. Perhaps you have put it in the back of your mind and are
pretending that there is nothing wrong.
After you have admitted your fear, you can start to deal with it and
overcome it. There are many ways to deal with your fear. Perhaps you
need to have someone to talk to. Maybe a friend or family member is a
good source of help for you. Talk with people and see what help they can
offer you. Perhaps someone has been through the same things or
something similar and can offer you expert advice. If you do not get any
answers from your support system, look for fear related discussion
groups. You can do a search on the internet to find groups in your area.
This puts you in touch with people that are suffering the same way that
you are.
Do not try to date while you are overcoming your fears. This is a
sure way to set you up for failure. You are not completely happy with
yourself. If you are not happy and content with your individual life,
you cannot give your whole self to a relationship and be completely
happy with another person. You will doom the relationship before it ever
begins. It is best to completely heal yourself before you begin dating.
No matter what the issues are that you are facing, it is important
to know that they can be dealt with and handled. You can overcome and
live a happy, fulfilled life. It is possible to work everything out and
then find the person that you are meant to spend the rest of your life
with. You will be happy and at peace within yourself. This makes it
possible to love someone and put your whole heart into the relationship.