The other day I was sitting around thinking about what makes the difference between winning or becoming frustrated at the online dating game. There are three BIG tips that really make the difference, and these are the same for man and woman when dating online.

1. What Type of Relationship Do I Really Want?:

Before you even touch the computer to go online ask yourself this simple questions and write down the answer on a computer notepad or a piece of paper:

What type of relationship am I really looking for? The answers could range from long term marriage, long term romantic dating, casual or singles dating ,single parent dating, gay dating, e-mail dating, chatting occasssionally or one night stand. The answers to these questions all depend on you.

Your lifestyle,personality,expectations of dating and degree of commitment are all factors that will help you answer the type of online dating game you want to play. Don't rush this initial step or push it aside as irrelevant because it is this that is the key determinant of what game you want to play. Once you have decided what kind of relationship you want, go online and do an engine search online for the specific type of relationship you want. Most dating sites cater for a specific niche of people. This first step allows you immediate access to other online daters who have similar intentions to you in terms of relationship commitment.

2. Who am I playing For?

Take the time to write down what your Mr or Mrs right will look like and who they will be for you. Some questions surrounding this task could be: What does my online date look or sound like?; What interests do they have to have in common with me? ; What career or earning capacity do they have?; What are their family like?; Do they have children or are they single?or What do I think their expectations of me would be?

Once again don't rush the process when answering these questions because they form the blocks of who you want to date online. The more specific you become the better the chances of winning the online dating game. Now when you go onto the online dating site based on the type of relationship you want, you can write your profile to a specific audience. The answers to the questions you have taken time to answer should serve as the perfect guide as to what to write in your profile.

Writing as if you were speaking to Mr/Mrs Right will attract and cause online daters who meet your criteria to sit up and take notice of your profile. If writing is not your strong suit, you can also record an online video or voice message to go with your written profile. once again speak to your Mr/Mrs right from the questions you have taken time to answer.

3. Pace Out Your Online Dating Game

Set yourself a time line on paper or computer notepad before you reply to any e-mails/hit hotlist buttons or further review a profile. Knowing the time line you want for your online dating game will help you keep the online relationship on track. To help you with this process ask yourself: How long do I want to simply chat /e-mail my online date?; When do I want to meet my online date in person?; How many dates will we go on before declaring this online candidate my Mr/Mrs right?; At what time line will I know I have won my game?

Now when you go online, you can play your online dating game with a start and finish line insite. this is what winners do, they pace themselves according to the length of the race from start to finish. Your online actions then match the game, for example how fast you send an online card or call your Mr/Mrs right.

When online dating taking time to look at the relationship you want, playing for the right person and, setting the pace of your online dating game, are three Big determinants of you winning your online dating game. Alll three sets of actions will in combination put you on track for winning the big prize of your perfect online relationship. What are you waiting for? Get on the track and win your online dating game!