What To Do For Valentines Day 2018?

by Alex Wise Expert advice on first dates, online dating, love,

Yep, it’s showing up again…Valentines Day… that is. You know, that day that yells through the roof tops the language of love. Its the day for romance, love, flowers and heart shaped candies.

Ah yes, and don’t forget the stuffed animals, romantic Valentines Day candle light dinners with champagne and engagement rings and….

Hmm, have I missed anything???

Oh almost forgot… It is also the day of heartbreak, loneliness and sadness.

Remember where your beliefs about Cupid’s Day all started? That’s right, in elementary school. Your classmates gave Valentines to their friends in their class. Remember how some kids got more Valentines than others? Were you one of those girls that got the most Valentines? Or were you the little girl that got fewer heart shaped goodies?

Now, fast forward to the present time, I have an important question for you…

Is there a pattern that followed you from elementary school to this time in your life?

Another Cupid’s Day question…

Is there that special romantic someone in your life ready to spoil you on this Valentine’s Day?

Probably your answer is: No, not really.

No Special Valentine romantic someone for me this year.

I’m sorry

Because I believe every woman deserves to be with a loving, caring and romantic person on Valentines Day in addition to every other day of the year.

And here’s why. I grew up cherishing Valentines Day… More than my Birthday, more than Christmas or for that matter more than any other day of the year. From the time I was a very little girl…

My dad would come home from work every February 14th loaded down with huge hearts filled with candy, stuffed animals with big red ribbons, a bouquet of red roses and a few other special gifts he knew I wanted.

This happened every year into my adult years, until he died. As you can imagine, this specialness I had for Valentines Day was always a challenge for my boyfriends and ex husband to live up to my expectations. The year I got divorced, I spent that first Valentines Day crying big giant tears.

My Father had already passed away and I had no special someone to celebrate my most important day of the year. Well, it was on that Valentines Day that I made a vow to myself…

I will never spend another V Day alone, without a special man in my life. And it was during that year that I accidentally discovered how to meet great available men. Miraculously, it was just a few months before February 14th that I met my future husband. And as we got to know each other, I casually hinted about, (he says not so casually) how much Valentines Day meant to me.

To my delight he took it to heart (pun intended) and surprised and totally dazzled me on that first February 14th we spent together. And, my guy has continued to follow in my Fathers tradition of spoiling me every day, but especially on Valentines Day.

What I discovered when I spent that first Valentines day after my divorce sad and alone…

Life was too short not to have a special someone in my life. Not just for Valentine’s day but every day of the year. As I vowed that I would never spend another February 14th without a special someone it was like the universe heard me. I now know that February 14th can be the day to jump-start your life from being alone…

To finding true love.

Want to kick start your love life this valentine’s day?

This article originally appeared on the Loveawake.com