Love and humor, powerful weapons against rejection

by Steve S. Marketing

Close these Christmas and family days in which it seems that one should be good by obligation, and only on these dates, I want to dismiss this 2017 with a very personal reflection on love and its derivations: kindness, altruism, kindness, compassion, acceptance, tolerance ... Endorsed by scientific and philosophical, physical and metaphysical investigations, which confirm that it is love - not money or power - the most powerful energy, that hidden motor that moves the heart and the world , my last premium this year is a very subjective consideration on the message of Wonder, the film starring a huge Julia Roberts splendid at 50 years without surgery or complex.

Well, more about the messages, because Stephen Chbosky's film, based on the novel by Raquel Jaramillo Palacio The lesson of August, inspired in turn by a casual encounter of the author with someone different, speaks of the fear of a child of 10 years, Auggie Pullman, the rejection that presumably will find when I have to go to school for the first time, yes. But also of his parents' doubt about whether he should continue learning at home or overcome that difficult step that he will have to take sometime in life, since he can not always live in his domestic shelter, being a healthy, intelligent, normal child , adorable ... with only one small obstacle: the deformed face that has been left after 27 operations, because he was born with Treacher Collins syndrome, a disease that causes craniofacial malformations. Of the true beauty, even physical, when Isabel, the mother, reminds her that it is Someone Wonderful, and that it really is. Or he explains that his own wrinkles and facial marks are the trace of his operation to improve his appearance, and that other, and the other. Of suffering, in short. And that for nothing of the world would renounce them. Of the acceptance, of the rejection, of the pain, the one that feels in the heart when you listen without wanting that your only friend is it by obligation, because his mother and the director of the center have asked for it, not because he wants it by his own decision .

A few days ago I went to see her at Monopol with my youngest son, Teo, just 11 years old. I laughed and I cried in equal parts, because the story, although tremendous, is told not only without drama, but with a lot of sense of humor, with blows like when his budding friend, Jack, asks him if he has never thought about having cosmetic surgery and he replies that he is this 'good' precisely because he has done it, and not once but heaps. Because that child has a mother, a father and a teenage sister to take off their hats and wave them. I was very moved by that mother who left her thesis - the only thing that she needed to be titled - to devote herself entirely to her son - 10 years of absence is very much in a working life to then be able to return to the market and resume your professional career! - and 10 years later, when Auggie is already in school and decides to finish it, he has it on diskette !!! and in that support, of course, you can not recover it to print it

I was very moved by that sister of only 15 years old who, even knowing that her parents love her, only feels loved by her grandmother (the actress who plays her looks a lot like the Roberts, they nailed him in the casting). With a maturity unbefitting her age she understands that her parents should focus all their attention, time and care on the person of the family that needs it most, which is Auggie, that brother for whom he is incapable of feeling jealousy, because he loves him very much. And it got to my heart because I would like for two of my three children to understand that now I should devote most of my time and thoughts to that brother who needs it most ... I was moved by the wonderful director of the center, Mr. Traseronian, who first that he does when Auggie is known and he is to remove iron to the subject, making jokes with his own last name, object without a doubt of jokes and jokes (https://www.shortjoke.net).

But, undoubtedly, what made me think most was the figure of the stalker, Julian, a poor child who is nothing more than the instrument of cold, intolerant adults, his own parents - and especially the mother - who inoculate him with hate and poison against Auggie on a regular basis. Which reminds me how true it is that we are the parents that we really need to learn, not so much the children. Learning about healthy parenting so as not to intoxicate with prejudice and limiting beliefs the minds of our children from their earliest childhood. Something that unfortunately is done, daily, with the devastating effects that this has on the soul, the mind, the personality and the world view that minors are adopting.