Many couples are into the oft-maligned “vanilla” sensuality,
referring to sensual activity that is fairly straight up and devoid of any
off-kilter or atypical aspects. But many sensual advisors and specialists think
that this is due not to a disinterest in the more off-kilter aspects of
sensuality so much as a reluctance to admit to having an interest. Men who are
interested in some form of alternative sensual activity (and who are prepared
to practice good, protective male
organ care while pursuing it) may
find the following sensual tips useful in exploring this option.
Be brave.
People build up personas that define themselves. There’s nothing
wrong with that, but sometimes people get defined in a way that doesn’t truly
reflect all sides of them. This can be especially true when someone has a
desire to move beyond “typical” sensual activities. It can take courage to just
broach the subject of this desire, even with a partner with whom one has shared
much already. But if delving into this area is important to a man, his first
step is to find the courage to take the first step of talking about it.
Don’t spring it.
If this desire is going to come as a surprise to a partner of
long standing, it’s best not to just blurt it out. Finding a way to ease into
the conversation is preferred. Some like a “joking” way: When passing a sensual
supply shop, perhaps a man might say, “Hey, do we have time to pick up a whip
and a few manhood rings?” in a joking manner. But later on that night, he can
refer to that: “You know when I made that joke about the sensual toys?” and
follow up with, “Well, I was wondering if maybe there are some new things we
might want to try out some time.”
Talk first.
Once the subject has been broached, if the partner is receptive,
it’s a good idea to talk things through first. Talk about the things that are
of interest to both parties. It’s good to set up a non-judgmental and honest
framework: Both parties should talk about what interests them and how they feel
about what interests the other person. Any resistance to participation should
be discussed and respected. A partner should also be open about how far he or
she is willing to go. And both parties should realize that they are free to
change their minds – either before, during or after an exploration.
Start slowly.
Most couples find it helps to start slowly. Rather than starting
off with props, for example, perhaps a little role-playing with, say, an
imaginary set of handcuffs or a faux-leather bra is desirable. Some light
rubbing of the posterior might be a good lead-in to actual spanking later.
Pick words.
Safe words are a good idea if the alternative sensual activity
gets a little too intense. Participants can choose a word that, if they utter
it, means things have moved beyond their comfort level and they should stop
now.
Know how things work.
Before employing props in one’s sensual play, make sure both
partners know how they work. For example, a cage for the manhood may be fun
during some role-playing, but will be less fun if neither partner knows how to
remove it.
No list of sensual tips is complete without a reminder to have
fun – and for men to make sure their bout of off-kilter sensual activities
doesn’t affect their male organ health. Since soreness may result from rough
play, having on hand a quality male
organ health crème (health
professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) is a must. A crème with a good
combination of moisturizers (Shea butter and vitamin E, for example) and
antioxidants (such as alpha lipoic acid) can do wonders for alleviating
transient member soreness. Also important: a crème with vitamin C, which is an
aid in collagen production and male organ tissue firmness. After all, one needs
to refresh and revitalize one’s manhood to be ready for whatever new games may
be coming one’s way.
Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common
member health issues, tips on improving male organ sensitivity and what to do
to maintain a healthy manhood. John Dugan is a professional writer who
specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to
numerous websites.