Last Longer in Bed - Facts and Tips

The desire to extend playtime beyond its usual duration is a common one among both men and women. If both partners are interested in this, it makes sense to learn some tips about how to last longer in bed – provided that both partners’ expectations are realistic. If one or both partners place unrealistic expectations on the man’s stamina, then performance anxiety can set in and further disrupt pleasure. Since sensual activity is an important part of psychological, relationship and manhood health, couples should know not only tips for lasting longer, but facts that dispel common misconceptions about a man’s lasting powers as well.

1) Get the facts straight. There is a notable discrepancy between what people want in bed and what they can reasonably expect (without proper preparations). Consider the following bits of data:

- A Cosmopolitan magazine survey of more than 2,500 women found that more than 70% said their desired length of lovemaking (from penetration to male finish) is over 10 minutes, with most saying 15-25 minutes.

- The same magazine surveyed about 30,000 men and found that, on average, they want longer sack sessions (including pre-play) to last 35-40 minutes.

- The average man can handle 3-7 minutes of continual thrusting before releasing.

Clearly, some of people’s expectations around sensual activity are unrealistic – at least unless they take special measures to lengthen the duration of the activity. It’s not that men have a problem – only 2-5% of men qualify as suffering from early on release, which is defined as finishing within one minute. Lasting for a short period of time is completely normal, so couples need to understand that, first, it’s not a man’s fault, and, second, both can take steps to lengthen their encounters.

2) Proper training is key. There are a couple things men can do outside of partner play to increase their control over release timing. One is to perform kegels; this is done by contracting the muscles that control the flow of urine through the male organ. The exercise is also known to strengthen tumescence function. 3 sets of 15 reps spread throughout the day is sufficient to make a difference, and they can be done anywhere.

Second, men can use their self-stimulation routine to up their bedroom stamina. This is done by employing a method called edging in which a man brings himself to the brink of release, then stops and waits until he begins to soften to start up again, repeating the process 3 or 4 times before allowing release. This trains him to better control the time of release.

3) Vary the speed. Remember: 3-7 minutes of continual thrusting is the normal time it takes for a healthy man to finish. If both partners are fond of the jackhammer style of sensual activity, fast and constant, it’s not reasonable to expect much longer from a man. Therefore, when he feels close to finishing, he can take this as his cue to slow down – kind of like edging, but with a partner.

4) Try the “7 and 9” method. The 7 and 9 method dictates a more structured approach to varying speed. The man thrusts fast 7 times, then 9 times more slowly and repeats.

5) Have mid-play. A man can maintain both male and female organ stimulation without thrusting in and out. When he’s getting close, he can pull out and rub the head of his male organ along the outside and the opening of the woman’s organ. He can even use the tip to stimulate her external hot spot.

6) Thrust shallow. Along with varying thrust speed, the depth can be changed to extend duration. While stimulation of the top of the shaft and head is still immensely pleasurable, it may bring about release more slowly than full engulfment of the organ. Also, shallow thrusts are best for hitting her G-spot, so she won’t be likely to complain. Classic doggie style with shallow thrusts is great for a man’s ability to control thrust depth and hitting the G-spot.

7) Be more in the moment. Everyone has likely experienced the “race to the finish” mentality. It can be hard to delay that immensely pleasurable moment; sometimes, people fear that they won’t finish if they wait, so they let it happen early on despite an overall desire to go longer. Men can try to shift their perspective from seeing sensual activity as a means to finish to seeing it as an enjoyable experience at all its many possible stages.

Men aren’t likely to last longer if their skin is sore and chafed. That’s why it’s a good idea to use plenty of lube during solo play and sensual activity. It’s also wise to apply a male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) after a man’s daily shower. A product with Shea butter and vitamin E can keep the skin is good condition and ready for action.

Visit http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most common member health issues, tips on improving male organ sensitivity and what to do to maintain a healthy manhood. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.