A
firm male organ is often an invitation for a guy to break out the lube and
engage in a joyous evening of self-pleasuring. For most men, that means
engaging in solitary sensual play – but not always. Some men may take decide to
drop in at a self-pleasuring club and make the gratification experience a
social affair. Maintaining appropriate male
organ health can make
the experience even more enjoyable – and make a first-time participant less
self-conscious, perhaps.
Kinds
of Clubs
Generally,
there are two kinds of self-pleasuring clubs: same gender and mixed gender.
Same gender clubs for men are often called jack clubs; mixed gender clubs are
often called jack-and-jill clubs. Same gender clubs are more common.
Interestingly,
same gender clubs do not cater to an exclusively gay clientele. Most such
organizations report that a significant portion of their population is bi or
straight; in some, the majority of men are straight. This is not surprising –
many straight men are interested in seeing what their "competition"
is like while not necessarily feeling sensual attraction toward them. And some
men just like to be watched by similar company while self-pleasuring.
Rules
The
do's and don'ts are going to vary from club to club, but the following are
general rules that usually apply to most self-pleasuring clubs.
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No oral, posterior or coupling sensual activity. Self-pleasuring clubs tend to
differentiate themselves from other forms of sensual clubs by centering solely
on self-stimulation. Those who wish to publicly engage in other forms of
sensual activity should look to clubs that are geared toward their interests.
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Respect others. In many self-pleasuring clubs, manually
stimulating another participant is allowed – but only if he or she wishes.
Under no circumstances should a participant be touched or be forced to touch
another participant against his/her will. This includes kissing, massaging,
etc. as well as touching or rubbing sensual organs.
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Clean up. Participants should practice good hygiene; cleaning up seed
spilled on the floor, walls, etc. after a release is the responsibility of the
releaser. (Most clubs provide tissues or other means of wiping away seed.)
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Clothed observation is discouraged. In most clubs, there is a "no
clothing" policy (aside from footwear for hygiene purposes). Not everyone
who goes to a self-pleasuring club may feel like actively participating; they
may wish to merely observe. In most clubs this is acceptable, as long as the
observer is appropriately unclad.
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Be polite. Not every person is appealing to every other person. At a
self-pleasuring club, a man may be approached by another participant who wishes
to manually stimulate with him; if he is not comfortable with this, a polite
"No thank you" should be all that is required. By the same token, if a
man is politely turned down in this way himself, he should respect that
person's desire to self-gratify in his own way.
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Be discreet. It's entirely possible that a man may
run into a friend, acquaintance or co-worker – or even his boss – at a
self-pleasuring club. Most men prefer to keep their participation in such clubs
private; respect this wish.
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No substances. Recreational substance use is frowned
upon at most clubs.
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Ask about lube. If possible, find out in advance what
the club's policy is regarding lubricants: is this a “BYOL” establishment, or
do they prefer that participants use lubricants provided on site? If BYOL, make
sure to bring a good supply.
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Participate at one's own level. Some men want nothing more from a self-pleasuring club than to
enjoy themselves in front of other men. Others like to participate more – by
urging other participants on, complimenting another guy's member or engaging in
conversation while stroking. It may take a while for a man to determine what
feels comfortable for him.
It's
possible to spend hours at a self-pleasuring club – and come out without a firm
male organ but with a very sore one. Using a first-rate male organ health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) with excellent moisturizers (think Shea
butter and vitamin E) can help here. Men who enjoy self-pleasuring may also
want to make sure the cream includes L-arginine, as this ingredient helps
create nitric oxide which in turns aids in keeping male organ blood vessels
open.
Visit
http://www.menshealthfirst.com for additional information on most
common male organ health issues, tips on improving manhood sensitivity, and
what to do to maintain a healthy member. John Dugan is a professional writer
who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to
numerous websites.