The Seven Vows

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Mar 1, 2017
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Hindu marriages (Vivaaha), a sacred relationship between two persons is not just confined to one incarnation, but extends to seven lives, during which the couple progress spiritually, facilitating each other. There are a number of rituals and customs performed before and after the wedding that help them achieve this purpose. Each ritual has its own meaning. However, the most important rituals are performed on the wedding day. A Hindu wedding is also the most lavish and extensive occasion, with full of amusing events that happen for 4 to 5 days. Hence, Hindu marriages are renowned around the world.

 

According to the Hindu religion, ‘fire’ or ‘agni,’ the ‘God of Fire,’ is believed to be the maintainer of life and all the Gods and Goddesses surround the sacred fire. So, the newly-weds are obliged to be involved in the ritual together around the fire. There are seven ‘Pheres’ or vows, known as sapthapadhi, to be taken during the wedding, performed along with ‘Mangalpheras,’ which is orbiting around the fire. A marriage is said to be incomplete without these vows. On the wedding day, both the bride and bride groom sit on the ‘Mandap (Sacred canopy)’ for this rite. The bride remains seated on the left side of the groom until the rituals are completed after which they switchover the positions.

 

Dr. Vinay Bajrangi explains the conception and significance of each ‘Phera’ and tells us that a Hindu marriage is said to be incomplete without these ‘Pheres.’

 

Phera 1

 

The newly-weds are allowed to pray to the Gods to take their blessings so as to receive healthy, good, and considerate life.

 

Groom, says, "Om esha ekapadi bhava iti prathaman, “meaning, “Let our love more intense with each passing day. Please offer us enough food and be helpful in every way.

 

Bride says, "Dhanam dhanyam pade vadet," meaning, “I’ll wholeheartedly endure your judgement. I’ll assure you that I’ll fulfil all my responsibilities of the family with utmost care and devotion. I’ll protect your honor and stay abided by your love forever. “

 

Phera 2

 

In this ‘Phera,’ the couple implores God to bless them with mental stability, good physical health, and spiritual strength that help them lead the life smoothly.

 

Groom says, “Om oorje jara dastayaha," meaning, “We promise that we’ll stand by each other forever. Please bestow us strength and fearlessness to protect our home and family from evil power.”

 

Bride says, "Kutumburn rakshayishyammi sa aravindharam,” meaning, “I promise that I’ll let only pleasing words pass my lips. I’ll stand by your side in safeguarding our family and children from evil powers. You shall love only me as your dearest wife and not entertain anyone in my position.”

 

Phera 3

 

The couple pleads the Gods to bless them with enough wealth, wisdom, and prosperity so that they’ll stay contended during their married life. In the third ‘Phera,’ the couple pledges that they are aware of the importance of religious and sacred responsibilities and that they will be performing the rites in future without fail.

 

Groom says, “Om rayas Santu joradastayaha," meaning, “We promise that we’ll stay spiritual and prosper together under your holiness. I’ll treat my wife as my only other half and I’ll consider other women as my sisters.”

 

Bride says, "Thava bhakti as vadedvachacha," meaning, “I’ll love you forever and consider all other men as my brothers. I’ll remain as a chaste wife showering all the love and devotion.”

 

Phera 4

 

In this ‘Phera,’ apart from persuading God to bless the couple with utmost happiness, the couple pledges that they are aware of the importance of the bond with family, parents, and elders and that they’ll abide by it.

 

Groom says, “Lalayami cha pade vadet," meaning, I’ll adorn myself with jewellery and flowers, only to please you. I’ll let my fragrance be casted only on you, and I’ll do everything I can to please you.

 

Phera 5

 

In this ‘Phera,’ the couple prays to God to shower his blessings for all the living things in the universe.  This ‘Phera’ mentions the concern the bride and bridegroom have to show with each other’s family members. It also represents their honourable errands towards charity and welfare of the universe.

 

Groom says, “"Om prajabhyaha Santu jaradastayaha," meaning, “Dear! This far, we’ve taken four steps Together. With the fifth step, my life will be uplifted. I would like you to share my duties for all charity activities. I pray to God to bless us with noble, righteous, and valiant children.”

 

Bride says, "Arthe arba sapade vadet," meaning, “I’ll share your happiness as well as sorrows. My primary objective will be to satisfy your wishes.”

 

Phera 6

 

‘Phera’ number 6 is all about asking for long and blissful life.’

 

Groom says, “By walking seven steps with me, you have added up enormous happiness to my life. I wish to have you always by my side and flood my life with pleasure and peace.”

 

Bride says, “Yajne home shashthe vacho vadet," meaning, I promise you that I’ll ever be with you and take part in all your righteous activities.”

 

Phera 7

 

The seventh ‘Phera’ is the concluding ‘Phera,’ which tots up completeness to the ‘Pheres (plural of phera).’ The couple pray for long lasting bond with good understanding, faithfulness, and accompaniment.

 

Groom says, “Om shakhi jaradastayahga," meaning, “My beloved! We have taken seven ‘Pheres,’ meaning, we have become husband and wife and possess a single identity. From now on, we will be incomplete without each other. You’re mine and I’m yours for eternity.”

 

Bride says, Atthramshe sakshino vadet pade," meaning, “I’m privileged to be your other half. I promise that I’ll be truthful to you always. I’ll love you and I promise you that I’ll be honest.

 

 

Ultimately, a Hindu marriage (Vivaaha) is a sacred relationship between two persons, which is not just confined to one incarnation, but extends to seven lives, during which the couple progress spiritually, facilitating each other. The newly-weds take seven ‘Pheres’ during the long wedding, each ‘Phera,’ dedicated to pray to God to fulfil one of the wishes, namely, happiness, wealth, universal peace and so on. If you are planning for the marriage of any of your family members, visit Bajrangi Dham. Dr. Vinay Bajrangi, the most sough-after astrologer, will assess the several combinations in the janam kundali (birth chart) and tell you if you will be able to marry the person you love.
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