The Big Bump
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The Big Bump
You don’t really conquer such a mountain. You conquer yourself!
You overcome the sickness and everything else, your pain,
aches, fears-- to reach the summit.
-James Whittaker (on Mount Everest)
"Danger, Will Robinson. Danger, Will Robinson!”
- Lost In Space robot
- Lost In Space robot
Every
now and then, when you’re cruising along, feeling great and enjoying
the ride, you hit a big bump. You didn’t see it, and you weren’t ready
for it, and so it really shakes you up. In fact, sometimes these bumps
take you right off the road you are traveling. When you hit them hard
enough, they stop you right there. If you had only known the bump was
coming, you could have gotten ready. Then you could approach it and
figure out a way to get over it with the least damage and disturbance
to your ride. If only you had known! The great thing about having a
coach is that you can be warned about things you don’t see coming and be
helped through them once you are in them. So let me warn you: You are
about to hit a Big Bump. I will explain this in a second. I also want to
let you know that I will coach you through it and past it, but you are
going to hit it.
Sorry, you can’t avoid it.
I
count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his
enemies: for the hardest victory is the victory over self.
-Aristotle
-Aristotle
That’s
right, you can’t avoid it. You can’t make a turn, take a different
road, jump, fly, or do anything else to avoid it. You can’t even stop in
your tracks--you’ll still hit it. There is nowhere you can go! The
great thing is we can manage to get over it and continue our journey.
The best way out is always through.
-Robert Frost
-Robert Frost
Yes,
you can make it through, and when you do, there will be a new world
with endless possibilities waiting for you to develop and to fulfill
your individual potential. The choice is yours, and if you want to make
it over the bump, you can. If you want it, I will help you. So I have to
ask you once again: Do you want to turn your life into what you want it
to be? If you do, hang on to your seats, and grit your teeth because
the bump you are about to smack into is yourself!
Did
you think it was going to be that easy? As much as you have worked and
as much as you have grown, you had the advantage of surprise, momentum
and the excitement of something new going for you. Your old negative
patterns of thinking were caught off guard and didn’t really think you
were serious. After all, they have been around a long time, and you
never followed through before and got rid of them, so why should this
time be different? But they get a sense it's different this time and if
they want to stay, they’ll have to do something about it!
I
like to think of negative patterns as tenants in an apartment building.
Your brain is the building and negative thoughts, patterns and habits
occupy apartment space there. Not only are they tenants, but they also
have ruled the building. They have made the rules and have set the tone
of the standard of living. They have nonstop parties, pizza and beer and
have all their friends over all the time. The music is so loud that the
songs they sing are often the only thing we can hear.
They’ve
been having all the fun and too much fun for a long time. Now that you
want them to leave, they’re not going to just pack up their bags like
good little children and exit the building quietly and cooperatively.
Oh, no, they’re going to kick and scream and do everything they can to
stay! They’ll start to tell you that you do not have to follow the
Checklist. They’ll start to tell you that you can skip a day, that you
can skip items, that things are silly in TOOLS,
that things do not apply to you, that for however long you do this,
every thought you think of will disqualify and stop the process.
However,
it’s your building, and you do have the right to kick them out. After
all they’ve been destroying your property for a long time. They make you
eat too much, late for important appointments, insecure, depressed,
smoke, drink, not exercise, lower your self esteem, all this and more.
They’ve been doing everything to run the building down. So as a landlord
who should be interested in the upkeep of your property, you do have
the right to get rid of them and restore your building. So what kind of
landlord are you going to be?
I
can tell you I know this will happen at some point in the next seven
days. In my experience with clients, the majority of them suffer a
setback in the period between Day 23 and Day 30. They find reasons to
return to old habits and patterns of thinking. They usually have quite
intelligent reasons. After all, it’s not that they are failing to
follow through, but very important work issues have come up. I have a
family member that needs help right now. I mean after all, there’s not
just enough time to think positively throughout the day is, there? I’ve
heard it all, and I can tell you it is all a lie! Every reason, every
justification, every manner to stop this process and or disqualify it
is a lie.
The greatest deceiver of them all, your negative pattern of thinking, is lying to you.
It
is a revenge of the devil sometimes takes upon the virtuous, that
entraps them by the force of the very thoughts they have suppressed and
think themselves superior to.
-George San Tayana
-George San Tayana
So
it’s okay to linger in bed, eat another donut, and not put effort into
plans to make your life what you want it to be? Listen, this process
works, but you have to stick with it and make it work! You have to want
to change, and you have to fight to control your apartment building.
Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.
-Carol Burnett
-Carol Burnett
Your
tenants are no strangers, though. No, your old habits and negative
patterns of thinking have become good friends. They are old friends you
are used to and comfortable with. After all, they support all your wrong
decisions and make you feel good about them. As bad as they are for
you, they are what you know. Often, when I’m working with people, as
good as their lives start to become, they are uncomfortable with these
new feelings. It’s a situation they are not used to, and as good as it
is, it can actually be scary. It’s facing and experiencing the unknown.
As bad as our negative thinking is, it’s what we know, are familiar
with and feel safe around.
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