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How To Overcome Self Doubt In Motherhood?
by Mama Zen MamazenIf you are a mom, then you have probably doubted yourself, at one time or another. Who hasn’t? Maybe you are doing it right now.
Doubting yourself doesn’t feel good, does it? It feels uncertain. But not only is it normal, it is healthy. Usually. Because it means we are questioning ourselves, which comes only from the desire to do right by our children. Yes, doubt is also love, in disguise. Love. Doubt is wanting the best for our children. But not always knowing how to provide it.
Every parenting stage is new and challenging. Getting our babies to sleep. Helping them start school. Supporting them as they grow physically and emotionally. The phases come and go. And we’ve just got to learn on the job. No parent is completely confident in their abilities. There’s always that niggle in the back of our minds, ‘What if I get it wrong?‘
And we will get it wrong. Many times over. We haven’t done this before. We’re dealing with human beings, not a maths equation. But the best thing about parenting? We always get another chance to do it again. Better. Differently. And every time we do, the doubt passes and that’s another phase mastered. For now, anyway. We’ve learned something new and, in the process, given our children the greatest gift of all. We’ve showed them that making mistakes is not something to be scared of. That it’s a crucial part of getting it right. Eventually. That they never have to be perfect.
Sometimes, however, doubting ourselves as a parent isn’t healthy. It’s a negative emotion. And that’s when the doubt doesn’t come from us but from someone else. Other people start to sew seeds of doubt the minute we start this parenting journey. And they won’t stop.
Sometimes it will be an innocent, throw away comment. Other times it will be more loaded than that and come from a place of insecurity where they need our decisions to reflect their own. So they can make peace with them. In short, it is about them, not us.
For many parents, confident parenting is undermined through social media. A social media newsfeed filled with pictures of other children winning medals, bringing home gold cards, playing instruments, and more to perfection is the perfect recipe for self-doubt for a parent. Try to mitigate the negative effects of social media. It may be a smart thought to assess where your self-doubt is emanating from.
If you have unresolved issues from your childhood or past trauma with your own parents, it would be a good idea to re-examine those concerns. It is only than that you will be able to trust your own instincts and gain confidence in parenting. A big part of self-doubt comes from absolute desire to do everything we can for our children and ensure that they always have the very best.
If you are thinking about How to Overcome Self Doubt, then there are many apps that can help you. One of which is MamaZen app which helps you see this new reality and encourages you to believe in yourself with a series of practical mindpower sessions.
Doubting yourself doesn’t feel good, does it? It feels uncertain. But not only is it normal, it is healthy. Usually. Because it means we are questioning ourselves, which comes only from the desire to do right by our children. Yes, doubt is also love, in disguise. Love. Doubt is wanting the best for our children. But not always knowing how to provide it.
Every parenting stage is new and challenging. Getting our babies to sleep. Helping them start school. Supporting them as they grow physically and emotionally. The phases come and go. And we’ve just got to learn on the job. No parent is completely confident in their abilities. There’s always that niggle in the back of our minds, ‘What if I get it wrong?‘
And we will get it wrong. Many times over. We haven’t done this before. We’re dealing with human beings, not a maths equation. But the best thing about parenting? We always get another chance to do it again. Better. Differently. And every time we do, the doubt passes and that’s another phase mastered. For now, anyway. We’ve learned something new and, in the process, given our children the greatest gift of all. We’ve showed them that making mistakes is not something to be scared of. That it’s a crucial part of getting it right. Eventually. That they never have to be perfect.
Sometimes, however, doubting ourselves as a parent isn’t healthy. It’s a negative emotion. And that’s when the doubt doesn’t come from us but from someone else. Other people start to sew seeds of doubt the minute we start this parenting journey. And they won’t stop.
Sometimes it will be an innocent, throw away comment. Other times it will be more loaded than that and come from a place of insecurity where they need our decisions to reflect their own. So they can make peace with them. In short, it is about them, not us.
For many parents, confident parenting is undermined through social media. A social media newsfeed filled with pictures of other children winning medals, bringing home gold cards, playing instruments, and more to perfection is the perfect recipe for self-doubt for a parent. Try to mitigate the negative effects of social media. It may be a smart thought to assess where your self-doubt is emanating from.
If you have unresolved issues from your childhood or past trauma with your own parents, it would be a good idea to re-examine those concerns. It is only than that you will be able to trust your own instincts and gain confidence in parenting. A big part of self-doubt comes from absolute desire to do everything we can for our children and ensure that they always have the very best.
If you are thinking about How to Overcome Self Doubt, then there are many apps that can help you. One of which is MamaZen app which helps you see this new reality and encourages you to believe in yourself with a series of practical mindpower sessions.
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