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Furiously Angry, Be Patient Learn How To Stop Yelling At Kids

by Mama Zen Mamazen
Frustrated and angry at your child for throwing your precious vase on the ground? There are hundreds of incidents that take place daily in a home that can drive a parent up the wall. Mess ups while eating food, pooping in the bathroom, during utensil cleaning, at sleep time and all through the day, are extremely common with children. During these moments, accidents and naughty activities take place. Belligerence takes over and the parent gets furious.

Small childish activities like flushing things down the toilet, throwing water on the floor, breaking objects are common in every home. These actions are done by errant and naughty kids but this naughtiness is a part of growing up! In the middle of it all- A parent desperately rants and raves while exercising discipline to tame the errant child. A parent yells at the top of his voice to control the child and wonders constantly “how to stop yelling at kids”?
 
Sometimes innocent activities of a child can irritate the parent. What if your fidgeting child comes and sits on your lap when you are in the middle of an important financial transaction online? This encourages the anger to seep out and you scream. After this, you are left pondering “How can I stop yelling at my kids”. Let’s get practical and find some ways to deal with this:

1)    You are angry there is no doubt about this. Do you really have to exercise your vocal cords to such an extent with the children? No, this is not the right way to discipline children, but this is recognised as the best way out by most people. Your child is following your track closely and will soon be aping you. Sit back, count till ten and release your breath to channelize your child’s energy elsewhere.
2)    Leave the verbal bullets alone. Just look at yourself in the mirror, you won’t like what you see. This will definitely prompt you to change your life and do something different. 
3)    Remember, there are plenty of people who yell, you are not the only one. You are struggling just like millions of others.
4)    Your uncontrollable rage needs to be tapered, but at same time showing anger is normal. Anger is a human emotion and you are not ruining your child by getting angry. The child also needs to understand boundaries. Keep your eye open for acute rage. Acute rage needs anger management, go for it. 
5)    Anger can sometimes pave the way to a disciplined life and most important you can control your yelling with some practice! Just take a deep breath and get more organised. Find out the reason for your temper and note the trigger factors. All you have to do now is, get rid of the triggers as early as possible.

One or two incidents where you have made a mistake are not sufficient to declare you a bad mother.  After all, no human being is perfect.  You have to manage your career, your children, home, family and most of all yourself. Frustration is natural and can be dealt with!


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