Find Out How People's Advice Can Destroy a Family and Strong Relationships

by PRC Agency PR

From a young age I heard the expression, "One thing is what you see and another thing that happens with the doors closed." This is a typical phrase that describes reality about couples. What people see, is often very different from what happens. Who is not involved in a relationship can realize reality, but not always.

A good example occurs with women because biologically we are designed to talk a lot. This implies that we can sometimes say what we should and should not say since it is difficult to control the language. This means that on other occasions people may or may not realize the reality that we live behind closed doors, but when we speak we open a door for other people to give their opinions, usually women. In this way, they know our reality in detail. Of course, reality from our point of view, which does not always inform true reality or conceals another part of the truth.

There is a tendency to want to advise when someone tells us about any situation, even if it is not a problem. Even, many times people who have a problem are looking for someone to listen to them, not for the advice and whoever listens does not let them finish talking to give their advice or tell them what to do.

I have noticed several peculiarities in the advice of people who try to help another, but in the end, they complicate the situation:

1- Good intentions that destroy our lives. I don't know if anyone who reads to me has heard the expression "Hell is full of good intentions." This means that with good intentions we do wrong and it is very common while we advise. The fault is not only of the adviser but also of the adviser because many times he does not know how to discern which people or advice to listen or ignore. This happens because when we touch emotions we usually react impulsively.

Many of those who advise only know what they know, but there are always clear and specific details of the situation, which are not said and left unnoticed. The omission of details does not have to be premeditated. These may be forgotten or seem insignificant.

For example: if woman A tells her friend that her husband arrives drunk every night, there is a lot of scandals and the neighbors call the police. Maybe A will tell her friend the kind of scandal her husband makes and the things he says. But maybe he doesn't tell her that when he arrives he also physically abuses her in front of the children.

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