Divorcing Parents

Among the positive effects of divorce can also be the end of parental fighting, which upsets the entire household; peace is restored in a warring household.

While divorce certainly affects kids, it can sometimes be for the better all around.

The outcome can include some beneficial consequences of divorce.

This is the time to set aside what caused the divorce and focus on the children who had no part in that breakup.

Once the emotional experience of the divorce process has been managed, the next natural step is the practical arrangements necessary for healthy, successful separation and divorce with kids.

Setting aside the adults' legal settlements, as the purpose of this is the children of divorce, the key issues will be child custody and child support.

A common misconception is that laws favor mothers as primary custodial parents.

More and more custody agreements are drawn in equal measure between the two parents or judges, so today you will likely see many mothers as the non-custodial parent as well.

A few words of advice on this, with thanks to an experienced divorce lawyer with whom we consulted: Keep lawyers as uninvolved as possible.

The outcome will be more money paid to them, money that could otherwise be better spent on education and the other needs of the children.

If it is acceptable, then it can be included in your separation and divorce agreements.

If your children are verging on adulthood, perhaps ask their opinion early on, before a legal agreement is signed between the mother and father.

Get a sitter! Don't bring the children to the lawyer's office.

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