There are often many words between men and women that seem tender but unfeeling. For example, a woman says to a man: See you when I lose weight. The man said to the woman: I will marry you when I have money. In fact, most of them give the other party the most euphemistic farewell in the name of waiting.
A girl asked me: "Then he said he can still be friends after breaking up? Is it also a lie of the century?"
Oh, dear girl, the so-called "being friends" is not about compromise or concession, nor forbearance.
Time went back more than 400 years, and there was a girl named Ma Xianglan on the banks of the Qinhuai River. She can't be regarded as an overwhelming country, but she is one of the eight beauty of Qinhuai with high affection and rhyme. The romantic and elegant literati pooser of that year, if you don't know Ma Xianglan, it's probably the same as the current drama chaser doesn't know Zhen, and the post-90s don't know Lu Han.
Ma Xianglan's blue face is the gifted Wang Zhideng. He once rescued her when she was in distress. The beautiful woman was grateful, loved by heart, and would like to promise her. However, the beauty is affectionate, and the gifted man has no intentions, only to be commensurate with friends and siblings.
Then you can only be friends. She regarded him as a confidant, silently forbearing, and from time to time she sent him sachets, sweat towels, orchid pictures, and also sent his wife ancient mirrors, fragrant tea, and copper locks.
They have been together for sixteen years, the mountains and the rivers, and the swan goose. She sees through the dignitaries who buy laughs and find pleasure, and also refuses to propose to the Wujiang boy who sincerely proposes to marry him. When she is over half a hundred and is about to be late, she can no longer bear to pay for nothing. Land, for Wang Zhideng to celebrate his 70th birthday.
The years of her life were just for that day to bloom for him, singing and dancing, and fragrance overflowing with Jinfan.
However, his friendship with her is ultimately only a gift to his confidant. Even if she is going to rest her life and enjoy her today, he was moved and admired, and he joked: "The three young masters of Qingjipi are like Xia Ji, but I can't be the minister of Shen Gong and Wu."
He compared her to Xia Ji, a slutty woman in the Spring and Autumn Period.
Her silent thoughts for a long time, her silent affection, and her face that persisted in her unwillingness to age, finally broke.
She returned to the Qinhuai River and couldn't afford it. Her love for him was the spring water on which she lived in this life. When she stopped surging, her life had to dry up. Knowing that the end was approaching, she lit a lamp to pay homage to the Buddha, changed clothes and sat down, and passed away.
Passionate is always annoyed by ruthlessness. Because I love you, I can't bear this joking, frivolous phrase. That light wind and Jiyue finally became heartbroken.
Because there is love, there is thirst, expectation, worry about gains and losses, anxiety, ups and downs, emotions, destined to exceed the safety limit between friends.
Only if you don't love, can you be a friend generously.
Liu Xiaoqing had a relationship with Jiang Wen. After she was in prison, Jiang Wen ran around for her until she was released on bail. Jiang Wen was the first to invite her to dinner. Liu Xiaoqing recalled: "I walked in the door, Jiang Wen stood up, and we hugged deeply under the warm light."
At the launch of Liu Xiaoqing's new book, his ex-husband Chen Guojun came to the stage to congratulate him with flowers in his hand. They ridiculed the old things without any shy. Chen Guojun sincerely wishes: This woman is worthy of a man's lifetime love.
Ten years after Gong Li and Zhang Yimou broke up, they once again worked together on "Full of Golden Armour" and "Return". At the film conference, Zhang Yimou said: "Today, I finally found a suitable story. This is for her. Movie of the year."
They and them are still each other's best quality partners, the most affectionate old friends, and the most tacit old friends. Deep feelings and deep meaning, nothing to do with Fengyue.
Faye Wong and Li Yapeng, after their divorce, are still as close as a family to celebrate Li Yan's birth. Xiao s and Huang Zijiao broke the ice on the same stage in "Kangxi Is Coming" 14 years after their break, and the two embraced each other.
Being friends is ultimately equal in emotion and realm. Say goodbye to each other at the crossing of love and start anew on the road of friendship.
Xu Jinglei said: I and all my exes are good friends.
It is an equal posture and a free soul. No one abandons anyone, no one fails anyone. We make a joint decision for each other's freedom and liberation, without condemnation, no matter what it is.
Because I have loved each other, I know better. The tolerance and compassion after love make us friends and even relatives.
Some people are destined to accompany you for a lifetime, and some can only accompany you for one journey. Some people can be with you, some people only share youth with you.
Love has some unknown origins and deepens, and sometimes it is overwhelming and irreversible. We used to stand hand in hand in the years, and we know how to let go and say goodbye to the ferry.
A love affair, a meeting. In the end, years will not let the hearts of love be filled with hatred.
The girl still asked: Then should I be friends with him?
If you are still sorrowful, sorrowful, uncontrollable, the past is deeply embarrassing, and the wound has not healed, then you cannot be a friend.
If you are still in love, greedy for gentleness, looking forward to love again, and eager to restore the good old, then you can't be friends.
If you are still unwilling, resentful, jealous, and full of hatred, you will never be a friend.
Hate comes from love and is an inferior variant of love. Resentment stems from unwillingness, it is the despair of love.
After breaking up, you can still be friends. It is to forget all the haze and unhappiness, forgive all the hurt and betrayal, and forgive all the mistakes and cruelty, then give in to each other, generously and decently, and start a friendship.
Love ends, and the end does not mean failure. Love will eventually make people grow.
When we have tasted the interweaving of cold and warm, we finally understand that love is a practice of fate. When we understand that every journey of love will eventually be displayed in our lives like antiques, it turns out that after love, can we still be friends? , There is no need to deliberately, let alone exacting.
If one day, we will say goodbye to each other forever, no need to sigh hypocritically, the memory has been sealed as out of print, after a long time, it will become another kind of forever.
If one day we are worthy of being friends, and we will meet each other in a role-playing relationship, it will not be pretentious, let alone old feelings, but love makes us compassionate and makes us willing to become people in this world who want each other's well-being more than others. That is our great love and compassion for ourselves and for each other, not fighting with the past together, not struggling with the past feelings.
It turns out that all love has never been wasted. It makes us plump, strong, generous, and familiar. We will no longer be entangled in the grievances of children. Looking back, we can only see that the world is wider, and all the prosperity and fragmentation in life are willing to bear.
Finally, we are nourished by love, nourished by love.
Finally, we see the tenderness, tenderness, uprightness and brightness of the lover.
Luoxue was silent, and never regretted his nine deaths.
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