Getting Along & Helping Each Other
When i joined Apsense a couple of months ago, I was absolutely amazed. This was the coolest social network ever. I just knew that I had found something better than Facebook, ning, or any other network I had ever seen. Since that time, i have upgraded to partner member because I still believe that there is no better network out there.
Unfortunately, lately there has been a bit of tension between some of the members here, and I feel the need to speak out. I myself have considered leaving Apsense, on more than one occassion.
My main goal in life is to help others. If it has to do with my business, whether be it in sales of my product, or in recruiting others into my business, I KNOW that I am helping that person in one way or another.
But, if I have to worry about what i write in a blog post, rev page or a response to someone elses posts, I dont feel like I should be critisized, put down, or be made a fool of by someone that doesnt agree with or like what i've written.
I was taught as a young girl, that. "If you cant say anything nice, dont say anything at all". Sometimes its very hard to bite our tongue and keep to these words of wisdom. But we all must learn this lesson and instead of critisizing others, keep it to ourselves.
Yesterday, I had a question, so I put it in the "question" section here on apsense. Someone told me that was not the "correct" place to put the question and they deleted it. How rude was that. It was by a person I didnt even know or was not even my friend!
I realize that Apsense has rules to live by, but the politics and the "powers that be" seem to have taken these rules a bit far and feel that they have power over people, because of their postition here. I'm not sure who appointed them to critisize or degrade others in a negative fashion, but I myself and some other members are quite sick of it.
Apsense should be an enjoyable place to network, socialize and advertise our businesses. After all thats what we're all here for. But when someone feels as if they are being "ganged up" on and are considering leaving Apsense because of a few unnecessary comments to a blog post, this is not acceptable.
We are all adults and need to be more respectful, kind and considerate of others. There is nothing that makes anyone any better than the next person, just because you have a title. We are all human beings and have feelings, and we all want to be respected. So please, lets try to remember this before we say something that might hurt or embarras someone publicly.
I'm sure that I will get some negative comments as to why this is not the "appropriate" venue to voice my opinion, so to the powers that be... If this is not the place, let me know, and I will move my article to the correct place.
Thank you,
Laura
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Comments (19)
Laura Newton9
The Water Filter Lady
Me too. I would just like to see everyone get along and help each other. (just like the title says). Enough said on the matter. I sincerely hope that the new year brings us all peace, happiness, prosperity and love for each other as human beings. Peace Out!
Paula van Dun16
Retired
Yes, I also hope they will stay.
Ruediger Schaefer Sc...6
mr
@Karen
Not sure if I found the right English words but give it a try: Seems we are brothers and sisters in the spirit.
All the best 2 u for years 2 come!
Karen L.10
Personal Development
@Ruediger & Laura - Thank you for the kind words, and I agree that our "friends" would be made stronger if some of us left APSense. However my time, and all of our time is too valuable to be spent on foolishness.
Moving forward in the New Year, I plan to surround myself with positive people (of course the negative ones will appear but I'm prepared to eliminate them quickly) who genuinely care about helping others in an uplifting way.
The way I look at it is, APSense was created for the ri
Jen Casey3
Very Nice topic Laura!
Priti Agarwala7
INVESTMENT CONSULTANT
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Laura Newton9
The Water Filter Lady
wow, Thanks for your response Karen. Please dont leave. I completely sympathize with you, and many others do to. Thats the whole reason I wrote this article today. So everyone here can come together and voice how they feel about the situation and politics that are damaging Apsenses reputation. I've only been here a short time myself, but I feel someone has to speak out about whats going on here. If things dont change i will be right behind you out the swinging door of apsense.
Ruediger Schaefer Sc...6
mr
@Karen:
"... and so in the New Year (tomorrow) I'm also leaving APSense.":
You shouldn't do that, please. You're a very pleasant team mate here at APSense. If you really would leave some of our "friends" would be made stronger as necessary.
"I'm too old to be told what I can, and cannot do.":
Please tell me whether the same is true for me ... I'm almost 52 years of age.
Slawomir Sobotowski10
Web Designer, Admin
@Laura You are always helpfull and friendly person. I know that very good.
@Madelon Welcome to APsense.
Let New Year will be the best to You all!
Slawomir
Karen L.10
Personal Development
Hi Laura, I'm not aware of what happened yesterday, however I wanted you to know that I completely support your opinion. I've stopped participating here as much as I used to because of the exact points you've outlined in this article.
Quite frankly the level of negativity I've encountered here on APSense over the past two to three months is very limiting. It's worst than the spammers writing "dingdingdingding" at every opportunity, and as annoying as that is negativity is one hundred times w
Wanda Murphy2
Keep in mind the reason why you joined Apsense. That help you remain dedicated and successful no matter what others say or do.
Madelon J.6
Hospitality Manager
I just joined today.
Hope to be able to enjoy APsense and to see respect and honesty.
Toshiba Burton7
Social Media Consultant
Wow Laura I am pretty new to Apsense & I hope that things will get better here thank god that I haven't experienced any of this yet.
Paula van Dun16
Retired
I did miss all that yesterday. But I think it was good of you to speak your mind about it.
Ruediger Schaefer Sc...6
mr
True words spoken and nothing left to say.
Laura Newton9
The Water Filter Lady
@Paula..well it happens here alot. Construtive critisizm is one thing.. visciously attacking others is not. After all the stuff that went down yesterday, one of our members was on the verge of leaving Apsense and I had to stand up for him. What was happening was absolutley unacceptable, and he did not deserve the treatment he was getting. It was just the last straw for me. I'm sure we are all guilty of this, but it has gotten way out of hand here and it needs to stop.
Paula van Dun16
Retired
Hi Laura. I did not see the ASK Apsense post you are referring to. So I can not comment on that. About negative comments: I think it is OK to disagree or write a critic note as long as it is meant as a constructive critic. And if it is done in a respectful and tactful way. Calling names and degrading people publicly is a big NoNo for me. There is always the possibility for a PM.
Katrina O.10
Indiana Water Filters
AMEN sister!! That's all I got! You hit the nail on the head. This is a business network, not a childish behavior network!