Can You Really Have BOTH?
LOVE and HATE.....Can we really have them both? Is this what our life is really meant to be about? Hmmmmmmm...........??????!!!!!????
As I was commenting on another great article, a great buddy of mine brought up some points that really made me think. (thanks G...I really should be doing house work right now...lol)
But believe it or not...I have gotten TONS done in these few hours. Amazing what you can do when you put your mind to it!
Back to the discussion:
Our debate was about LOVE and HATE.
The point that was made to me was that you have to Hate in order to Love.
My point to him was that my past with hate is something that I am so freely getting rid of...and don't want any part of it anymore.
Would I be where I am at right now, if I hadn't experienced that hate? I haven't a clue, and I am not going to stress about wondering. What I am experiencing is the Present. And I am looking at my life, and even this whole world differently! In doing so; it has brought me to a place that I don't ever want to leave! I only will expand it to new horizons!
But this conversation made me look even further in the words HATE and LOVE:
HATE~ abhor, abominate, loathe, scorn, despise, have an aversion toward, look at with loathing, spit upon, curse, dislike intensely, shudder at, not care for, have enough of, be repelled by, feel repulsion for, have no use for, object to, bear a grudge against, shun, denounce, resent, curse, be sick of, be tired of, reject, revolt against, deride, have no stomach for, disfavor, look down upon, hold in contempt, be disgusted with, view with horror, be down on, have it in for, object to , shudder at, not like.
LOVE~ To be passionately devoted, adore, be in love with, care for, hold dear, choose, fancy, be enchanted by, be passionately attached to, have affection for, dote on, glorify, idolize, prize, be fascinated by, hold high, think the world of, treasure, prefer, yearn for, be fond of, admire, long for, fall for, be nuts about, be crazy about, go for, cherish, kiss, embrace, cling to, clasp, hug, take into one's arms, hold, pet, stroke, draw close, bring to one's side, to possess a deep and abiding interest, enjoy, delight in, relish.
There are many other words that express these two words. But looking at it this way, I see the point that my friend was saying.
How I can justify his point and then my point is seeing it this way: When you love in duality you will one day hate too. The world of duality has both sides to it. When you love in totality, there is only love. What this means is that you take the middle ground, nothing is good and nothing is bad, it just is. No one is lovable while another is full of hate, all beings just are and they are one with you and all is love. (thank you Micheal)
Seeing it from this prospective, you cannot have both when you are surrounded with only love.
Trust me, getting to this point in my life has been a long journey. Another great friend of mine here at Apsense said it is like 'Slapping your forehead..and saying...should have had your V8 today!'
What the heck have I been thinking?
See, in the past, I focused all of my energy on things that I couldn't control in the first place. Or things that I could control....instead of taking action, all I wanted to do was complain about it.
Take for instance. I have 5 kids. I would rant and rave about the house, and nothing...absolutely nothing would get done about it! So now, instead of complaining and ready to pull my hair out...I just get it done! With the kids, they are assigned their chores and then I have my own chores that I do. My house is clean (and growing up with both parents Air Force...some of you can understand my meaning of clean).
Bills...instead of complaining about the bills, and getting MAD at the people collecting what is owed to them. I just get the bills paid. And don't think about....oh they are ripping me off crap. Yeah, they are.....so what? I committed to the bill, so who made the choice to have to pay that bill? ME!!!!
Gas....getting mad about how high the gas is, and complaining about (something I can't control in the first place).....I just let it go! I mean, why focus on being mad about it...I can't control it ?!? But I can control how I feel about it, because I have to get gas anyways! So I just don't worry about it, and I don't let it control my life!
What I do think about is what I can control. And that is me! My feelings, and leading my children to a better way of thinking as well. Sure, I have a lot of work...because of all the COMPLAINING...they heard me doing for so long! And myself has adapted to all of my past complaints!
I can't control my parents, my friends, my fiance, I can't even control my kids! But what I can control is ME! When you have complete control of yourself, the power of what happens in your life is AMAZING!!! Trust me, I am experiencing it..and giving a testimony to it!
Free will is our gift, but we are taught to be fearful of it. Free will is awesome! Nothing to be scared of.
I am reading articles complaining about the President, complaining about this. Heck, look at my articles from months ago....COMPLAIN COMPLAIN....from yours truly. I am not criticizing those that are complaining...but really what can you do about it? Sure, maybe it FEELS good to get it off your chest...but guess what? It is stuck further inside of you because that is all you can think about!
Living in fear, hate, all of that was tearing me up. That is all that I could focus on!! I couldn't focus on all of the love surrounding me, the gifts that have been given to me, the peace that I could have within myself. Now that I have it, I am free of the burden of OTHERS making choices for me. I have taken full responsibility for my self. Months ago if I read this, I would of had a lot of negative to say about it. Because I was still the puppet on the strings of FEAR. I am not asking anyone to agree with me, because I am living this life with MY CHOICES. But if I can help...just one person understand that we have been lied to all of our lives, and can control our own lives. Then my job is DONE. Each and everyone of us have the ability to respond to our own individual thoughts!
I am no Guru...I am no professional. I am new to this life of freedom, and have a lot that I have to work on. I will have that until the day that I leave this Earth! That is what is awesome with life. We can not replace what has happened in our past, but we expand (good or bad). I choose to expand in the good. I am so finished with the bad!
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.~Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love,
Jennifer Sasser
Simplifying Lives and Securing Futures
As I was commenting on another great article, a great buddy of mine brought up some points that really made me think. (thanks G...I really should be doing house work right now...lol)
But believe it or not...I have gotten TONS done in these few hours. Amazing what you can do when you put your mind to it!
Back to the discussion:
Our debate was about LOVE and HATE.
The point that was made to me was that you have to Hate in order to Love.
My point to him was that my past with hate is something that I am so freely getting rid of...and don't want any part of it anymore.
Would I be where I am at right now, if I hadn't experienced that hate? I haven't a clue, and I am not going to stress about wondering. What I am experiencing is the Present. And I am looking at my life, and even this whole world differently! In doing so; it has brought me to a place that I don't ever want to leave! I only will expand it to new horizons!
But this conversation made me look even further in the words HATE and LOVE:
HATE~ abhor, abominate, loathe, scorn, despise, have an aversion toward, look at with loathing, spit upon, curse, dislike intensely, shudder at, not care for, have enough of, be repelled by, feel repulsion for, have no use for, object to, bear a grudge against, shun, denounce, resent, curse, be sick of, be tired of, reject, revolt against, deride, have no stomach for, disfavor, look down upon, hold in contempt, be disgusted with, view with horror, be down on, have it in for, object to , shudder at, not like.
LOVE~ To be passionately devoted, adore, be in love with, care for, hold dear, choose, fancy, be enchanted by, be passionately attached to, have affection for, dote on, glorify, idolize, prize, be fascinated by, hold high, think the world of, treasure, prefer, yearn for, be fond of, admire, long for, fall for, be nuts about, be crazy about, go for, cherish, kiss, embrace, cling to, clasp, hug, take into one's arms, hold, pet, stroke, draw close, bring to one's side, to possess a deep and abiding interest, enjoy, delight in, relish.
There are many other words that express these two words. But looking at it this way, I see the point that my friend was saying.
How I can justify his point and then my point is seeing it this way: When you love in duality you will one day hate too. The world of duality has both sides to it. When you love in totality, there is only love. What this means is that you take the middle ground, nothing is good and nothing is bad, it just is. No one is lovable while another is full of hate, all beings just are and they are one with you and all is love. (thank you Micheal)
Seeing it from this prospective, you cannot have both when you are surrounded with only love.
Trust me, getting to this point in my life has been a long journey. Another great friend of mine here at Apsense said it is like 'Slapping your forehead..and saying...should have had your V8 today!'
What the heck have I been thinking?
See, in the past, I focused all of my energy on things that I couldn't control in the first place. Or things that I could control....instead of taking action, all I wanted to do was complain about it.
Take for instance. I have 5 kids. I would rant and rave about the house, and nothing...absolutely nothing would get done about it! So now, instead of complaining and ready to pull my hair out...I just get it done! With the kids, they are assigned their chores and then I have my own chores that I do. My house is clean (and growing up with both parents Air Force...some of you can understand my meaning of clean).
Bills...instead of complaining about the bills, and getting MAD at the people collecting what is owed to them. I just get the bills paid. And don't think about....oh they are ripping me off crap. Yeah, they are.....so what? I committed to the bill, so who made the choice to have to pay that bill? ME!!!!
Gas....getting mad about how high the gas is, and complaining about (something I can't control in the first place).....I just let it go! I mean, why focus on being mad about it...I can't control it ?!? But I can control how I feel about it, because I have to get gas anyways! So I just don't worry about it, and I don't let it control my life!
What I do think about is what I can control. And that is me! My feelings, and leading my children to a better way of thinking as well. Sure, I have a lot of work...because of all the COMPLAINING...they heard me doing for so long! And myself has adapted to all of my past complaints!
I can't control my parents, my friends, my fiance, I can't even control my kids! But what I can control is ME! When you have complete control of yourself, the power of what happens in your life is AMAZING!!! Trust me, I am experiencing it..and giving a testimony to it!
Free will is our gift, but we are taught to be fearful of it. Free will is awesome! Nothing to be scared of.
I am reading articles complaining about the President, complaining about this. Heck, look at my articles from months ago....COMPLAIN COMPLAIN....from yours truly. I am not criticizing those that are complaining...but really what can you do about it? Sure, maybe it FEELS good to get it off your chest...but guess what? It is stuck further inside of you because that is all you can think about!
Living in fear, hate, all of that was tearing me up. That is all that I could focus on!! I couldn't focus on all of the love surrounding me, the gifts that have been given to me, the peace that I could have within myself. Now that I have it, I am free of the burden of OTHERS making choices for me. I have taken full responsibility for my self. Months ago if I read this, I would of had a lot of negative to say about it. Because I was still the puppet on the strings of FEAR. I am not asking anyone to agree with me, because I am living this life with MY CHOICES. But if I can help...just one person understand that we have been lied to all of our lives, and can control our own lives. Then my job is DONE. Each and everyone of us have the ability to respond to our own individual thoughts!
I am no Guru...I am no professional. I am new to this life of freedom, and have a lot that I have to work on. I will have that until the day that I leave this Earth! That is what is awesome with life. We can not replace what has happened in our past, but we expand (good or bad). I choose to expand in the good. I am so finished with the bad!
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.~Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love,
Jennifer Sasser
Simplifying Lives and Securing Futures
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Comments (25)
U.S. Pride Home Spec...2
Well written and insightful.
Very nice blog!
Not Here8
just want my account deleted
Yeah....
Thinking...God it hurts..LMAO!!
Jennifer Underwood11
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Awww...Garnets writing poetry....must mean he wuvs me. LOL! That was very well put, and see you made me think..and I made you think. HAHA!
Not Here8
just want my account deleted
Jennifer, I can't quite place what it is and regardless of what people may think or say or even if it really is ego or selfishness or a true desire for higher enlightenment, I could care less and really just can't help myself!
I think after all this discussion(and the Old Coots Remarks), hate really wasn't even what I was talking about. Arthur, your right there really isn't much sense in all of this, how can there be when looking at 42 different perspectives on 42 different subjects or opini
Jenny Stewart11
Hi Jenn
Well I have always believed that the opposite of love is not hate but indifference!
Jenny
Jennifer Underwood11
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You all can continue with the bickering. But what my article was about in the first place.....has been lost in space. I have said all I will say. Until my next article. There will be plenty of people that read this and appreciate what I have said, take it, and use it. Peace and Much Love!
Not Here8
just want my account deleted
Hate is a label? What word is not?
And my only real argument all along has been that hate(or something that they, we or whoever would prefer not to acknowledge rather than something that they are truly cogniscent of) EXISTS therefore must have a reason, or do you all beleive life and all it entails is meaningless?
Jennifer Underwood11
Promoter
oh my. Thank you for your feedback Coot. It has been clearly pointed out that Love and Hate are what WE make out of it. They are our own perceptions of how we live our lives.
Love and Hate are the ways that we communicate, because that is how we have been taught.
If we stopped focusing on those two words and focused on what truly makes us at peace within ourselves. Hate would not exist. At least in your own world, because you will just accept things as they are. Other peoples choices w
Arthur Webster7
Just plain honesty
What a strange conversation this is.
I've tried to make sense of what you are all trying to say but not a single one of you has identified the stupidity behind accepting love and hate as the opposite sides of the same coin.
Love is a subjective emotion that is created and driven by knowledge. To truly love something, you need to know it very well. You need to be exposed to it on a regular basis and you need a heart sensitive enough to feel the emotion, a brain sensitive enough to be affect
Jennifer Underwood11
Promoter
Look at who says that God hates in the Bible?
Not God. God clearly states himself that we are not to hate.
Hate will always been in this world because people hold on to hate.
And bringing God up was not bringing the Bible up. Not everyone reads the same Bible, and I am not judging anyone's religions or beliefs! I am telling you what I am experiencing, and a WHOLE better life....freedom, and peace. Just as I was promised to have.
God gave us free will. That is what he gave us! So yes,
Cheryl Baumgartner12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
When you bring God into it you also bring the Bible. It clearly states that there are times when God hates. God does not hate the individual but the individual's actions. We are created with the capacity for hate and there are times when hate is called for. That does not mean we base our entire lives on hate or that we are ruled by it.
But it was built into us for a reason, so you cannot say it is wrong. God gave it to us, and God is not wrong. It serves it's purpose. Without hate we woul
Jennifer Underwood11
Promoter
Again, this is my testimony. And even Jesus said that hate was a lie...that fear was a lie. The only commandment we are to live by is LOVE!
I didn't write this to get this far into it, but even God clearly states that.
I just look at life in love, and hate is diminishing around me...because I just don't focus on it. I only focus on love. Instead of arguing about it, why don't you just try it? If not, then that is your choice!! I don't look at you any different! I am just telling you the changes
Jennifer Underwood11
Promoter
Did I ask you to quote Moses or King Solomon, or Paul....and so on? They were great men, don't get me wrong! But they as we do, were looking at the hate around them.
Now, how many times did Jesus talk about hate?
Matthew 5:43 ¶Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
Matthew 5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecut
Cheryl Baumgartner12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
Deuteronomy 16:22
and do not erect a sacred stone, for these the LORD your God hates.
Deuteronomy 12:31
You must not worship the LORD your God in their way, because in worshiping their gods, they do all kinds of detestable things the LORD hates. They even burn their sons and daughters in the fire as sacrifices to their gods.
Two cases where it specifically says God(The Lord) hates.
Yes each of us has the capacity for love and hate. Each has it's place and it's purpose. There is nothing wron
Not Here8
just want my account deleted
Jennifer, where has anyone said that you said that you should sit back and do nothing about it?
Where is Hate attached to God?
"There are seven things that the Lord hates and cannot tolerate:
A proud look,
hands that kill innocent people,
a mind that thinks up wicked plans,
feet that hurry off to do evil,
a witness who tells one lie after another,
and a man who stirs up trouble among friends."
-Proverbs 6, 16-19(also the very book where all this L.O.A. junk you see on the market
Jennifer Underwood11
Promoter
and what are love and hate?? Feelings, thoughts...that WE control!!! Actions, and the rest....just follows with.
Jennifer Underwood11
Promoter
Where have I said that you should sit back and do nothing about it? Actually if you read outside of the box...that is exactly the whole point I am making! You can do any and everything if you put your mind to it.
I will repeat the quote that sticks with me..from a woman that we all know. Helen Keller
No pessimist ever discovered the secret of the stars or sailed an uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit.
As I said, I didn't write this for anyone to agree with me. It i
Cheryl Baumgartner12
Medical Billing/Coding/Insurance
Exactly Garnet. Simply accepting because you cannot directly do something about it right now accomplishes nothing and in a manner of speaking seems defeatist. The key is to do something even complain. It's amazing when you complain how many people you discover have the same complaint and that is the first step towards change.
Think about it. In the days prior to the Civil Rights Movement people were convinced that there was nothing they could do to change the situation. And there were thos
Jennifer Underwood11
Promoter
I just added this to my article...
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. ~Martin Luther King, Jr.
Jennifer Underwood11
Promoter
That is our free will...to live in hate, or live in Love....Love is the promise, Hate is the lie.