Like Mother...Like Daughter....UH OH!
Don't get me wrong.. I have two wonderful boys, that I will very soon post a blog about. But my daughter. She is me made all over.....and I see her as my second chance.
I almost lost her twice. Once when she was a few days old...and once two weeks before her 2nd birthday.
She has been God's wake up call to me...and how precious life really is!
I have some really really great news to share.
Well in June, my family and I had an unexpected move. Where for a few months it meant us staying with family members *by the way a few of them made me feel like the red headed step child*...but any how. I do appreciate the ahem...hospitality that I gave to them *did the cleaning cooking...and bought the groceries*..but man was I so ever glad to be in my own home. By the way these are my soon to be in law in laws. If I went all into it....you would think ....JERRY SPRINGER!
Trust me, I don't raise my kids around that mess and won't allow it into my home. So..during this move I made a very HARD decision.
I left Kaleigh's dad back in 2004. It was a very complicated, abusive marriage. It finally took me until last year to allow her dad back into her life. Although he was a great father to her...he was a horrible husband to me. *which means he really wasn't all that great as a father*...but you know.
Well, during this move I decided that since he has been showing great feed back to her, and she was really coming out of her shell*she was SCARED to death of men up until this past year*
He went through his anger management classes...and a few short visits the past year had ended up full weekends with him.
So my fear of her time with him....he proved there was nothing to fear.
So his life has been settled...new girlfriend...house together....
I was not about to put my daughter through the staying with family...bull crap.
During this time, I decided that it would be best if Kaleigh stayed with him.
The move took a little longer than anticipated, and so school was starting. This was going to be Kaleigh's first year in pre-k. I had her registered in the county we were living in. But our move had taken us to a different county.
Pre-k is not required in the state of Georgia. I am not sure about any other state. It here is based on a first come first serve.
Really ridiculous if you ask me...especially when Georgia is huge on the No child left behind Act.....
THAT is another blog in itself.
All of this meant...I had to put Kaleigh on a 'waiting list' here in the county I am now residing in.
Well, there were openings in the county her father lived in. Kaleigh was so excited to start school...I just could not take that away with her. So I agreed that she could start school there, until an opening came up here.
All in all...I was anticipating the #4 that she was on the list...would happen immediately. Boy was I wrong. So it has been now 4 months, my daughter....my love...my life...my hope...my everything....I have had to live without during the weeks. I get her on the weekends. I have been so lost, so depressed...but happy as long as she is happy.
WELL GREAT NEWS! I went and filled out all the paperwork here at the pre-k this week. Her opening FINALLY CAME UP!!! She is coming back home...to fill her empty room during the week!!! These past few months have been the longest I have gone through!
I am so excited!!!!
Ask....and thou SHALL RECEIVE!
Thank you all of you for your love, support, and most of all....friendship!
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Comments (18)
Wendy7
I am ever so happy for you . That you and your daughter are together again.
Jenn
Were you skipping classes with me LOL
I hated school as well
Quit in grade 11 Went back for my Nursing (RPN) after I had 3 boys. Youngest was just in diapers.
Wendy
Jennifer Underwood11
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Oh and Jeunelle...we won't even go into how much I loved school. I LUCKILY graduated on time! I think they were scared to fail me!! HAHA!
Jennifer Underwood11
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OK..Great day! She cried when I went to leave today. Boo hoo! But she was so very excited when she came home. I asked her what did you do today...she said 'Played...alot'!
For some dern reason my photo program isn't working today. Go figure!
Jennifer Underwood11
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OH!! LOL..I have to tell you all. Her brothers have already warned her....she BETTER not have any boyfriends! HA HA! She said 'I won't tell you anyway'.
I need to set up a video cam in my house with these kids....then you would understand it. My two boys, Ronnie's two boys....and Kaleigh.
14, 11, 10, 9 *the boys*
and her being 4.....
But I tell you...she can handle them!
Jennifer Underwood11
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btw Peaceful...thank you for the wonderful compliments! I have been logging on and off here and there trying to play catch up. And actually now, I am going to have to force myself to go to sleep. Got a huge day tomorrow. My baby girl is not such a baby any more :0(
Btw I can't have any more children. I always heard that the last one is the hardest to let go off...that is so true. And she happens to be the only girl!
Jennifer Underwood11
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Well, update...my daughter is home..and she is so excited about school she went to bed at 7 pm!! HAHA! Hope every night will be this easy. *I think the time change helped too*! Will let ya'll know how the first day goes. Look for pictures!
andy jack3
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well in my case,i love spending time with little kids,making them laugh is wonderful moment,i am just 19 but there are lot of little kids in my relatives i use to play with them,i know when they run behind me trying to catch my spectacles lolllll:) and shouting and then laughing,so pleasure giving moment,i also love teaching them poems.:).positive point is i never find it difficult to get in tune with them.
I am from India and although i am 19 years old,still i am a kid for my parents and many
Jeff Greene8
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Although I will never be a parent in this incarnation, it really touches me to see how you can go through this stuff and emerge as a strong Mom to your children... and a good friend to Yourself..
Keep up the good work, Jenn! :)
There's a whole lotta people out there who need to become at least half as strong as you are! :)
Jennifer Underwood11
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LOL!
I wasn't trying to be prejudice...but that just came to mind first! I just love the fact of all the cuz's and uncles and aunts......Sometimes with my kids I learn of new cousins, Aunts or Uncles...that is cool!
Well, I am white.....we could be related! HA HA!
Wendy7
Jenn
I commend you Putting your kids first is something I have always done Oh Bye the way I started having kids at 19 LOL
I can' t recall ever telling my kids the couldn't. Always said you can be what you want to be Just make sure you behave yourself
Not sure if girls are easier to raise than boys or not Good Lord saw to it that I had all boys. Probably a good thing.
Any girl I would have had would be a tom boy.
AS for spankings Well I got my share and know I deserved every one of them.
Sh
Jennifer Underwood11
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BTW never liked Georgia. But grew up all over the world really never knowing my family. But landed myself with my 'babies daddies' here in Ga.....I love it when the kids are able to play with all there 50,000 cousins...
ha ha ha
and no...there last name isn't 'White'.
Although we all are.
BTW...when you talk to me! Don't laugh at my accent!
I was a MIXED up child with a lot of different accents! HAHAHAHA!
AND PROUD OF IT! :0)
Joseph Botelho15
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Jenn,
You are one very real and good mother, even if you live in that state Peach State they call it..............Your kids are really lucky to have you as their mom and provide what you provide for them leadership is what you know and understand and there is nothing else you would like to see them do and that is be the best they can be in there young and adult life....................Your great............never forget that..........
Not Here8
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Ah..life! What would it be without the craziness?
Way to go Jenn, just keep doing your best and you can't go wrong!
Jennifer Underwood11
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Thank you Jeunelle. I do not let my children make their decisions...but I try to think like them.....and I believe or not..can remember more about my young child hood than anything else! I myself, will put my pride aside just to make sure my children are getting the most out of life! They never ever here from me, I can't, I won't...and they know I will not hear it out of theirs. I know parenting is the hardest thing. Trust me...I have done it since I was 18! YES! I have made mistakes.....
Jennifer Underwood11
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There was a day that Austin was in 2nd grade and he was embarrassed when i said I love you baby. So I thought about it....and we talked and I of course don't want to embarrass my children (I went through a lot of that with my mother....but in different ways)
So I said 'we can come up with our own ways of showing'...and he said 'no mommy. I will always be your baby. You can call me that anytime! I am proud to be your baby!'