I am at a loss today...

Posted by Not Here
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Oct 19, 2007
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Seems like there has been a fair bit of debate around the community lately, almost seems as though some people would rather compete with each other than help each other.  I have even seen some pretty childish bickering and complaining between members, for whatever reason, thats between them and they should keep it that way.  When we compete we all lose. 

 

Now, I ain't perfect, much as I'd like to be, and my remarks may seem competitive too, really they are just my opinions, attempts at real conversation if you will.  If we need to challange anyone, it should be ourselves, our own ways of thinking.  Don't think for one second my thinking hasn't been challanged here at apsense, it has and continues to be, and I love it!

 

Back to whats really bothering me, what made me come home from work during my lunch break just so I could get this off my chest already.  The wining and complaining I have seen lately is enough to drive me up the wall. I don't care whether it's that someone isn't topping blogs, or someone isn't leaving comments, someone isn't taking the right action or whatever.  Complaining proves nothing!  It just gets everyone fired up, thinking in a negative fashion, and guess what, nobody's happy!  You know, apsense was pretty awesome before all the bells and whistles that we now have were added.  If all people are going to do is complain about how people use these features maybe we should just lose them.  THE ONLY ACTION WE SHOULD BE TAKING IS INSPIRED ACTION, PERIOD!  I'm sorry but the negativity of it all is driving me over the edge.  The thing that makes this community great is the people, the people are the one thing that can decide:  Do we make it great, or do we tear it down and destroy it just to serve our own selfish desires? 

 

So, if you want to top or drop this, whether you want to leave a comment or not, no matter what you think of me, WHATEVER, Tell Me or Don't, I DON'T CARE!  even if you think I'm a total jerk, it doesn't matter.  I'm looking for enlightened, real discussion from forward thinking people.  I will not disregard any remarks, good or bad, just be prepared to deal with my honest feedback, and just maybe together we can grow into some magnificent! 

 

The CHOICE Is YOURS

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Jan aka Jaz Green
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Bickering, whinning, complaining, negativism; are various attention grabbers that work for some individuals. Competition in any environment can be fierce. It does not matter how many shows up for the 'starting line' ... the one's who finish are the ones who are recognized as accomplished.

Nov 22, 2010 Like it
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Sunmax Traders
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Online Forex Trading / Financial Services

Thought provoking words.

Nov 22, 2010 Like it
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Jan aka Jaz Green
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It does not matter where You stand, sit or participate on the "planet" ~ difficult people are everywhere as well as people who think "the world revolves around them" ~ think Internationally and continue to reach someone in "Cyber Space"

Oct 31, 2008 Like it
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Coach Steve Toth
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Ok Alas y Cia'

I just peaked at the front page and most of it is advertising. BRAVO-great progress. I personally stopped posting my quality content here because no-one can find it or get to it-meaning there is no ROI.

But what you are speaking of in your comment sounds like a great Utopia.

Apr 9, 2008 Like it
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Not Here
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just want my account deleted

Whoops! Hey Jenny...YOUR DARN TOOTIN!!!! LOL

Dec 23, 2007 Like it
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Not Here
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just want my account deleted

HECK YEAH!

Thanks San!

Dec 23, 2007 Like it
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Jenny Stewart
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And it is a good reminder to us all, in case anyone gets the idea that the yuckiness is welcomed back.

Cos it isn't and if anyone ATTEMPTS to rain on our happy parade - they will be cheerfully ignored by all and sundry, as they deserve to be.

Dec 23, 2007 Like it
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Susan coils
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Web Design & Marketing Services for Small Business

I have to agree, this blog is still going because it was (and is) a worthwhile blog.

The bickering, the fighting, the namecalling, the endless squabbling - Yugh!

Apsense is a terrific place. We get to share, learn, support, laugh, and yes, we even get to advertise! Heck, where else can you get so much?

Dec 23, 2007 Like it
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Chuck Bartok
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Veteran Entrepreneur now Sharing

Garnet,
You are a winner everyday...

You are in the Lead of the Beginners Marketing Class
referral contest.

You are an example of what is the right way to relationshiop market.
Congratulations...

Bring som,e more of our Apsense Friends into this Dynamic Resource
for Business persons

Dec 22, 2007 Like it
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Nathan Ramsey
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my first website http://nathanramsey2.googlepages.com/freeresponsiveglobaladvertising

Dec 22, 2007 Like it
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Stupid Girlfriend
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Okay still alive and kicking and at a loss my self today this blog has gone of the deep in. Hello everyone.

Reta

Nov 19, 2007 Like it
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Lanny B
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nice blog

Nov 12, 2007 Like it
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Not Here
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just want my account deleted

Jeunelle...I use a stress-o-meter...when my head starts to hurt it's too damn negative for me..LOL!!!

Nov 8, 2007 Like it
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Not Here
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just want my account deleted

yeah...maybe we just all want clarity too

Nov 8, 2007 Like it
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Not Here
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or we just like to argue or maybe we all feel the need for closure or maybe we're all just scared or maybe you just opened pandora's box!

Christ I'm too tired for this sh..t

Nov 8, 2007 Like it
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Jean DAndrea
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Retired

Good points Jenny,
Haven't noticed so many ads around lately, so there must be much more
quality stuff to read, and it keeps us busy enough so that we don't
see the ads! :-)

Jean

Nov 8, 2007 Like it
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Not Here
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Your blog was in the comments so...there it is!!

Nov 8, 2007 Like it
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Not Here
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just want my account deleted

Jeunelle, I never said that you said that this Blog was directed at you!

Nov 8, 2007 Like it
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Not Here
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HOLY CRAP!! you guys sure posted a lot of comments here while I was gone! and no-one even said anything Negative about me..what's WRONG with you guys??

Negativity + Positively = POSITIVITY

I think were all agreed on this

One more thought, then I'm going to spend time with my kids,

This blog was not directed at you Jeunelle or any other particular person, although your blog or more accurately the comments on your blog was one of the things that led me to write it.
Eric I happen to

Nov 8, 2007 Like it
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Mark Hultgren
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Wordpress Specialist

Eric,
Here is one I like (and try to live by)

Keep your words soft and sweet, for you'll never know which ones you have to eat!

Negativity can be applied tactfully and be received as an honest critique or tactlessly and be recieved as criticism. I personally prefer a critique over criticism any day.

Nov 7, 2007 Like it
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